AN UNLOVED WOMAN: SHE CAN BE SINGLE OR MARRIED

THE UNLOVED SINGLE WOMAN & THE UNLOVED MARRIED WOMAN

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“…an odious woman …” (Proverbs 30:23 KJV). “…a contemptible woman…” (Proverbs 30:23 NIV). “…a bitter woman …” (Proverbs 30:23 NLT).

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 In these three translations of Proverbs 30:23, it describes a woman with a negative attitude or disposition. “…an odious woman when she is married…” (Proverbs 30:23 KJV). “…a contemptible woman when she is married…” (Proverbs 30:23 NIV). “…a bitter woman who finally gets a husband…” (Proverbs 30:23 NLT).

I believe this woman can be a single woman who has grown odious, contemptible, bitter, and hateful because she’s had to wait so long before getting married. “…an odious woman when she is married…” (Proverbs 30:23 KJV).

Or it could be a married woman who has been unloved so long she has become odious, contemptible, bitter, and hateful. “…a bitter woman who finally gets a husband…” (Proverbs 30:23 NLT).

Women struggle with feeling unloved in their singlehood just like women struggle with feeling unloved in their roles as wife. “…Hope deferred makes the heart sick, But desire fulfilled is a tree of life…” (Proverbs 13:12 NASB). “…Unrelenting disappointment leaves you heartsick, but a sudden good break can turn life around…” (Proverbs 13:12 MSG).

Constant or long-term disappointment about feeling emotionally unloved can make a woman odious, contemptible, and bitter, which are ALL hateful qualities. “…a contemptible woman when she is married…” (Proverbs 30:23 NIV).

When a single woman finally gets married she could display and exercise these traits to the degree she becomes intolerable to her husband and family. “…an odious woman…” (Proverbs 30:23 KJV). “…a contemptible woman…” (Proverbs 30:23 NIV). “…a bitter woman…” (Proverbs 30:23 NLT).

A married woman, who has been married for a while, could display and exercise these traits also to the point she becomes insufferable to her husband, family, other relations, and acquaintances. “…an odious woman…a contemptible woman… [OR]…a bitter woman who finally gets a husband …” (Proverbs 30:23 KJV & NIV & NLT).

It is difficult to be a single woman who desires to get married, especially as TIME passes, and she continues to age.  It is a struggle not to get a negative attitude about it. If allowed, the single woman’s heart can become hardened and contemptible from the long wait for the “right” husband.  When a single woman finally gets married she may hide her odious attitude, but will end up behaving odious toward her husband to the point she is deemed unlovable. “…an unloved woman …” (Proverbs 30:23 NASB).

It is also difficult to be a married woman sometimes, especially as times passes, and “HE” still hasn’t changed.  It is a struggle not to get a negative attitude when a spouse fails to be the husband she dreamed about. If allowed, the married woman’s heart can become hardened and embittered by disappointment. When an unloved woman is married she, eventually, stops fighting her growing odious feelings and starts to behave intolerably towards her husband to an unlovable degree. “…an unloved woman …” (Proverbs 30:23 NASB).

The odious woman’s attitude or disposition, single or married, attaches her to unlovable traits which cause her more misery and heartbreak in the long run. She will NOT be pleasant to be married to. “…It is better to live in a desert land Than with a contentious  (odious) and vexing woman…” (Proverbs 21:19 NASB).  “…A constant dripping on a day of steady rain And a contentious woman are alike…” (Proverbs 27:15 NASB).

The odious woman is one who has lived most or much of her life, single or married, without the proper emotional care. She has allowed her heart to become bitter or sour about it. “…See to it that … no root of bitterness springing up causes trouble, and by it many be defiled…” (Hebrews 12:15 NASB).

The single woman finally gets married and the married woman has been married for a while, but both use their position to make their husbands and others as unhappy as they are or have been. “…Watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you, corrupting many…” (Hebrews 12:15 NLT).

An odious woman is NOT always LOUD and OBVIOUSLY odious, contemptible, or bitter. She can be a quiet woman with a hardened, complacent heart who stays married, but refuses to love her husband, with agape love anymore. “…an odious woman when she is married…” (Proverbs 30:23 KJV).

She has silently decided to rebel against him, against God, and against her Godly ROLE as his HELPMEET. “….Verily I say unto you, inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these, my brethren, YE HAVE DONE IT TO ME...” (Matthew 25:40 KJV).

At this point, it is not about how the husband is or isn’t treating the unloved woman, but it is about the condition of her heart. The “…hidden [wo]man… of the heart…” (1 Peter 3:4 KJV). It is “…from within, out of the heart of [the wo]man, …proceed evil thoughts…All these evil things come from within, and defile a person.” (Mark 7:21-23 KJV).  The heart “…is deceitful above all things and desperately wicked…who can know it?…” (Jeremiah 17:9 KJV).

The man NOW seems to be the one trapped in the relationship with an odious woman. “…It is better to live in a corner of a roof Than in a house shared with a contentious (or odious) woman…” (Proverbs 21:9 NASB).

The single woman LONGS to be married and the married woman LONGS to be LOVED. “…for [She has NOT]… learned to be content whatever the circumstances. [She knows]… what it is to be in need, and [She knows]…what it is to have plenty. [Yet]... [ she has NOT]… learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want…” Philippians 4:11-12 NIV).

The single woman DESIRES emotional love and care in her singleness and the married woman DESIRES emotional love and care in her married-ness. “… [She has NOT]… learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want” Philippians 4:11-12 NIV).

These women can learn to be content. HOW? “…[They]… can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth [them]….” (Philippians 4:13 KJV).

What “IS” EMOTIONAL LOVE and CARE? It is witnessed through the actions of COMFORT. God, your Father, is the standard for COMFORT or CARE. “…[God] … careth for [you]… (1 Peter 5:7 KJV).  “…I … will comfort them and give them joy for their sorrow…”  (Jeremiah 31:13 NASB).   “…You, O Lord, have helped me and comforted me…” (Psalms 86:17 NASB). “…This is my comfort in my affliction, That Your word has revived me…” (Psalms 119:50 NASB). “…O may Your lovingkindness comfort me, According to Your word to Your servant…” (Psalms 119:76 NASB). “..The Lord has comforted His people And will have compassion on His afflicted…” (Isaiah 49:13 NASB). “…For the Lord has comforted His people…” (Isaiah 52:9 NASB). “… Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death…” (Genesis 24:67 NASB).  “…All his (Jacob) sons and all his daughters arose to comfort him…” (Genesis 37:35 NASB). “…So he comforted them and spoke kindly to them…” (Genesis 50:21 NASB). “…I have found favor in your sight, my lord, for you have comforted me and indeed have spoken kindly to your maidservant…” (Ruth 2:13 NASB). “…David comforted his wife Bathsheba, and went in to her and lay with her…” (1 Samuel 12:24 NASB). “…Ephraim mourned many days, and his relatives came to comfort him…” (1 Chronicles 7:22 NASB). “…Then all his brothers and all his (Job) sisters …they consoled him and comforted him...”  (Job 42:11 NASB).  “…Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted…” (Matthew 5:4 NASB). “…They took away the boy alive (healed), and were greatly comforted…” (Acts 20:12 NASB).

Many women may have had wonderful earthly fathers who adequately cared for them, but NOT emotionally. “…She has no [emotional]…comforter…” (Lamentations 1:9 NASB). “…Far from me is … [an emotional] … comforter, One who restores my soul…” (Lamentations 1:16 NASB)

Though a father is the FIRST man a woman will ever love; he often gets a pass or excuse for NOT adequately providing for his daughter’s emotional care. “…My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge…” (Hosea 4:6 NIV).

If God is a God of ALL comfort (care) should a man of God (earthly Father) do any less for his daughter(s) or the women in his life? “…Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort who comforts us in all our affliction so that we will be able to comfort those who are in any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by …our comfort is abundant through Christ.…” (2 Corinthians 1:3-5 NASB).

The world tells the man to leave ALL the emotionally nurturing to the mother, which leaves the daughter without the proper guidance as to how her husband should take care of her emotionally or how she should respond. “…He commanded our fathers That they should teach them (the WORD) to their children…” (Psalms 78:5 NASB). “…so that [THEY]… will be able to… [EMOTIONALLY] … comfort those who are in any affliction with the [EMOTIONAL] …comfort with which [they themselves were emotionally] … comforted by [the Father]…” (2 Corinthians 1:3-5 NASB).

Without knowing it her earthly father has left her defenseless, undeveloped, unskilled, and open to abuse in regard to her OWN emotional care.

Her earthly Father was to instruct her about giving and receiving the proper emotional care. “…Hear, O [daughters], the instruction of a father, And give attention that you may gain understanding…” (Proverbs 4:1 NASB).

Her earthly father didn’t really take responsibility for her mother’s emotional care where the daughter could witness it. “…My father [has not]…taught me, “ [I have NO word to]…take to heart. [I have no instructions in order to] …. Follow [his]…commands, and live [emotionally cared for]…….” (Proverbs 4:4 NLT).

She mainly watched her mother fend for her OWN emotional care all by herself. Her mother may have taught her to fend for herself too. Or she may have taught her how to go to other women, get through it by herself, or go to the Lord, but NOT to her husband or father. “…My [daughter], observe the commandment of your father And do not forsake the teaching of your mother…” (Proverbs 6:20 NASB).

When the father does NOT teach the daughter how to be emotionally cared for, what DOES he teach her about her emotional care? That “…She has no [emotional] …comforter…” (Lamentations 1:9 NASB).

What does it teach her about her earthly father’s emotional care? “…[he]… has no … [emotional]…comforter ,,,[either[…” (Lamentations 1:9 NASB).

The earthly father can NOT teach his daughter what he does NOT know. “…My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge…” (Hosea 4:6 NIV).

The earthly father inadvertently becomes his daughter FIRST emotional abuser.

The WHOLE world tells an earthly father he does NOT provide the nurturing and it is ALL up to the MOTHER. Yet God, who is the earthy father’s standard for emotional care says this: “…As one whom his mother [emotionally]..comforts, “so I” will [emotionally]…comfort you; And you will be [emotionally] …comforted…” (Isaiah 66:13 NASB).

An earthly father has ALL he needs to be emotionally cared for himself and to emotionally care for his daughter and the women in his life. “For it is God who worketh in [the earthly father], both to will and to do of His good pleasure” (Philippians 2:13 KJV).  “…[The earthly father]…can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth (empowers) [him]…” (Philippians 4:13 KJV). . “…God is able to make all GRACE abound toward [the earthy father]; that [he will]… always having all sufficiency in all things…” (2 Corinthians 8:9 KJV).

Satan is “…a liar and the father of lies…” (John 8:44 NASB). Most earthly fathers are NOT taught to emotionally care for themselves and certainly NOT the emotional care of his wife or daughter. Men NEED emotional care too.

Without being aware of it, the earthly father and husband abuses and murders the emotions of the women he loves. “…You are… [acting like] … the devil, and …do [his]…desires  … He was a murderer from the beginning … for he is a liar and the father of lies…” (John 8:44 NASB). We know … the whole world lies under the power (lies) of the evil one…” (1 John 5:19 RSV).

An earthly father is to be a REFUGE, PROTECTOR, and COVERING for the emotional care of the women in his life; just like God, if he knows it, is to him. The earthly father should KNOW this about God, HIS heavenly Father: “…He alone is my refuge, my place of safety…For he will rescue you from every trap and protect you from deadly disease.  He will cover you with his feathers. He will shelter you with his wings. His faithful promises are your armor and protection. … If you make the Lord your refuge, if you make the Most High your shelter,  no evil will conquer you; no plague will come near your home. …The Lord says, “I will rescue those who love me. I will protect those who trust in my name…” (Psalms 91 NLT).

When the earthly father has learned and understands God is the REFUGE that protects both his OWN internal and external conditions. He in turn provides safety internally and externally, to the women in his care. The earthly father knows: “…The name of the Lord is a strong tower (REFUGE); The righteous runs into it and is safe…” (Proverbs 18:10 NASB). “…God is our refuge and strength, A very present help in trouble…” (Psalms 46:1 NASB).

The earthly father, to the best of his ability, begins to emotionally care for the woman in his life. “…In this world we are LIKE JESUS…” (1 John 4:17 NIV).

Believers, who are earthly fathers, must learn to steward ALL the responsibility of their ROLES, in the life of their daughters and wives, honorably. “….the husband is the HEAD (covering) of the wife [and daughter]… EVEN AS Christ is the HEAD (covering) of the church…” (Ephesians 5:23 KJV). “…As every man hath received the gift (as a spiritual covering), even so minister the same one to another, as good stewards of the manifold GRACE of God…” (1 Peter 4:10 KJV). “…LOVE one another, even as I have loved you…” (John 13:34-35 KJV).  “…It is required of stewards that one be found trustworthy…” (1 Corinthians 4:2 NASB).

The earthly fathers and husbands are NOT alone. While they cover their wives and daughters; God has them COVERED too. Ultimately “…the HEAD  (covering) of EVERY man is Christ and the HEAD (covering) of the woman is man; and the HEAD (covering) of Christ is GOD….” (1 Corinthians 11:3 KJV).

Therefore, earthly fathers and husbands are empowered, by their OWN COVERING, PROTECTOR, and REFUGE, to  HELP them steward the responsibilities of their roles in life? ^“…It is God who works in [his earthly fathers]… to will and to act in order to fulfill his good purpose…” (Philippians 2:13 NIV). God causes them“…to be strengthened (empowered) with might by his Spirit in the inner man…” (Ephesians 3:16 KJV). THEY “…can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth (empowers) [THEM]….” (Philippians 4:13 KJV. “….Apart from [jesus], [they]… can do nothing…” (John 15:5 NIV). ). “…Now may the God of peace, … that great Shepherd of the sheep, equip (empower) [earthly fathers]… with everything good for doing his will, and may he work IN [earthly fathers]… what is pleasing to him, through Jesus Christ, to whom be glory for ever and ever. Amen” (Hebrews 13:20-21 NIV). “…according to the POWER that worketh IN [earthly fathers]…” (Ephesians 3:20 KJV). “…HE WHICH HATH “BEGUN” A GOOD “WORK” IN [earthly fathers]… “WILL” “PERFORM” IT “UNTIL” the day of Jesus Christ…” (Philippians 1:6 KJV).

An earthly father can stand on the foundation of two important biblical principles. “…..Love the Lord thy God with all thy heart and with all thy soul and with all thy mind and with all thy strength: this the first commandment.  The second is like, namely this … love thy neighbor (daughters and wives) as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these…” (Mark 12:28-31 KJV).

If believers, who are earthly fathers, don’t stop the emotional abuse of women because of their inability to provide emotional care…WHO WILL? “….If my people, which are called by my name, SHALL HUMBLE THEMSELVES …AND TURN FROM their wicked ways I [will]… hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal …” (2 Chronicles 7:14 KJV).

An unloved woman “KNOWS” innately she is to be emotionally cared for by her husband, but she OFTEN doesn’t know HOW because she wasn’t TAUGHT. 

She LEARNED to emotionally care for herself so she may NOT know where her emotional care ends and where husband’s should begin. “…My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge…” (Hosea 4:6 NIV). “…a man shall …. be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh…” (Genesis 2:24 NASB).

There is a healthy balance of emotionally care where we do for ourselves and where we allow others to do for us. Sometimes we need the emotional support of others. “…So that we will be able to [emotionally]…comfort those who are in any affliction with the [emotional]… comfort with which we ourselves are [emotionally]…comforted by [people God sends our way]…” (2 Corinthians 1:3-5 NASB).

Many unloved women weren’t TAUGHT to receive or accept emotional care from men and may have been rebuffing her husband’s attempt to emotionally care for her without even knowing it.

Without knowing it, the unloved woman may have communicated to her husband “I don’t WANT or NEED your emotional care.”

The unloved woman may NOT even have a CLUE what emotional care looks like and thus continues to suffer silently. She may be the one recreating or promoting the lack of emotional care, from her husband, through her OWN actions. “…The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish tears it down with her own hands…” (Proverbs 14:1 NASB).

The unloved woman can be prideful about having looked after her OWN emotional care for MANY years. She is prideful about NOT needing anyone. “From within, out of the heart of [the wo]man, …proceed evil thoughts… pride...  All these evil things come from within...” (Mark 7:21-23 KJV). “… Everything in the world—the pride of life—comes NOT from the Father but from the world…” (1 John 2:16-17 NLT). “…The wicked, THROUGH THE PRIDE of his countenance, WILL NOT SEEK AFTER GOD: God is not in all his thoughts…” (Psalms 10:4 KJV).

Throughout the bible, God warns against the pitfalls of pride. “…A [wo]man's …pride shall bring [her] low…” (Proverbs 29:23 KJV).  “…Pride [goeth] before destruction…” (Proverbs 16:18 KJV). “…if a [wo]man …think [her]self …to be something, when [she]… is nothing, he deceiveth [her]self…” (Galatians 6:3 KJV). “…Let another [person].. praise thee, and not thine own mouth; a stranger, and not thine own lips…” (Proverbs 27:2 KJV). “…Seest thou a [wo]man …wise in [her]… own conceit? [there is] more hope of a fool than of [her]…” (Proverbs 26:12 KJV). “…Those who walk in pride [God]… is able to humble…” (Daniel 4 NIV).

In order to receive emotional care from her husband the unloved woman must “humble herself.” “HUMBLE YOURSELVES in the sight of the Lord…” (James 4:10 KJV). “…HUMBLE YOURSELVES therefore under the mighty hand of God…” (1 Peter 5:6 KJV). “Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus…” (Philippians 2:5 KJV). “…I am gentle and HUMBLE IN HEART…” (Matthew 11:29 NIV).

Only when and if the unloved woman learns to humble herself and become dependent on the Lord’s emotional care will she in turn learn to be humble to her husband’s emotional care as well. “…learn from me…..I am gentle and HUMBLE IN HEART…” (Matthew 11:29 NIV). Jesus “…[entrusted  HIMself]… to [God]…” (1 Peter 2:20-23 NIV).

It takes God to re-FATHER the unloved woman and TEACH her HOW to be emotionally cared for and NOT emotionally abused. “…For our earthly fathers disciplined us for a few years, doing the best they knew how. But God’s discipline is always good for us, so that we might share in his holiness…” (Hebrews 12:10 NLT). “…‘[your]… Father who is in heaven…” (Matthew 6:9 NASB). “…learn from ...[him[……” (Matthew 11:29 NIV). “…[he]…WILL SUPPLY ALL YOUR NEED…” (Philippians 4:13 KJV)

Unfortunately, the unloved woman HAD to learn to look after her OWN emotional care, yet she has an INNATE need, desire, or attraction for her husband’s emotional care which saddens and weighs down her heart. “….To the woman He (God) said, "… your desire will be for your husband..." (Genesis 3:16 NASB).

The single woman and the married woman are SEEKING emotional CARE. But it is “…God [who]… will supply all [their need]… according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus…” (Philippians 4:19 NASB). “…your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things…” (Matthew 6 KJV).

It may be an unfulfilled desire that started with the desire for emotional care from their earthly fathers. “When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a [wo]man, …I [thought I]….put away childish [needs]….” (1 Corinthians 13:11 KJV).

The heavenly Father is the ONLY one who can feed that insatiable emotional hunger NOW. “….THE BREAD OF GOD is he which cometh down from heaven, and giveth life unto the world … I AM THE BREAD OF LIFE: HE THAT COMETH TO ME SHALL NEVER HUNGER [emotionally]…” (JOHN 6:33-35 KJV). “…The Lord is my shepherd; I SHALL NOT WANT…” (Psalms 23 KJV). “…Whoever comes to me will never go hungry [emotionally]...” (John 6:25-69 NIV). 

The single woman finally GETS a husband and the married HAS a husband, but neither of them has found the emotional CARE they so desperately sought. “…Everything [else]… is wearisome beyond description. No matter how much we see, we are never satisfied. No matter how much we hear, we are not content…” (Ecclesiastes 1:8 NLT). “….Human [emotional]…desire is NEVER SATISFIED…” (Proverbs 27:20 NLT). “….THEIR APPETITE (emotional desire) IS NEVER SATISFIED….” (ECCLESIASTES 6:7 KJV). “…the eyes of man are never satisfied…” (Proverbs 27:29 KJV).

However, “…I [God]… satisfy …and refresh everyone …” (Jeremiah 31:25 NASB). “…God is love…” (1 John 4:4-8 KJV). “…God will supply all [your (emotional) need]…” (Philippians 4:19 NASB). “…I (God, not a husband or anyone else)… satisfy  …” (Jeremiah 31:25 NASB).

Both the unloved single woman and unloved married woman must eventually say or admit: “…The trouble is with me, for I am all too human, a slave to [the sin of pride]. …I don’t really understand myself, for I want to [be emotionally cared for] …but I don’t [allow myself to]... Instead, I do what I hate. So I am not the one doing wrong; it is [the sin of pride]… living in me that does it.  And I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. I want to [be emotionally cared for) … [which]… is right, BUT I CAN’T…Who will free me from this life that is dominated by [my pride]? …The answer is in Jesus Christ our Lord…” (Romans 7:14-25 NLT). 

Jesus “…humbled himself [to God’s care]… and became obedient unto death…” (Philippians 2:8 KJV). With God’s help you can also: “….HUMBLE [yourself]… in the sight of the Lord…” (James 4:10 KJV). I will “…HUMBLE  [myself]… therefore under the mighty hand of God…” (1 Peter 5:6 KJV).

You can CHOOSE to give your emotionally care over to God any time. “…[You]… can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth [you]….” (Philippians 4:13 KJV). “…Apart from [Jesus, you] can do nothing….” (John 15:5 KJV). “…God will supply all [your emotional need]…” (Philippians 4:19 NASB) AND “…[God will]… satisfy [you]…” (Jeremiah 31:25 NASB). “…The LORD will [take care of]…that which concerns [you]…” (John 14:31 NASB). “….[God] careth for [you]… (1 Peter 5:7 KJV).

God’s “…love …always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres, [God’s]…love never fails…” (1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 NIV). "…WHOEVER BELIEVES IN HIM WILL NOT BE DISAPPOINTED …" (ROMANS 10:11 NASB). “…There is no greater [emotional]…love than to lay down one’s life…” (John 15:13 NLT).

The unloved women must SEE emotional love and care through God’s EYES: ^““… Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation (substitute, intervention) for our sins.” (1 John 4:10 KJV). “…God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him, should not perish, but have everlasting life” (John 3:16 KJV). “…Christ also hath once suffered for sins, the just for the unjust, that he might bring us to God …” (1 Peter 3:18 KJV).

Therefore, “…Christ came at just the right time and died for [YOU]…. Now, most people would not be willing to die for an upright person, though someone might perhaps be willing to die for a person who is especially good. But God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners…” (Romans 5:6-8 NLT).

To the single woman and to the married woman; it is God, your Father, who teaches YOU how to be loved and emotionally care for. “….as I have loved you….” (John 13:34 ASV). “…Let no one deceive you with empty words…” (Ephesians 5:6 NASB). “…associate with fools and get in trouble….” (Proverbs 13:20 NLT). “…Thus saith the Lord, ‘LEARN NOT the ways of the heathen….’” (Jeremiah 10:2 KJV). “…Make no friendship with an angry man….lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul…” (Proverbs 22:24-25 KJV).

He is YOUR standard for BEING emotionally cared for and he is YOUR standard for emotionally caring for others. , “…We love, because he first loved us”…” (1 John 4:19 ASV).

God’s love is never rude, but gracious. God’s kind of love is not self-seeking, but self-sacrificing (John 3:16).  God’s kind of love is not easily angered , but peaceful. God’s love will NEVER fail or end, but goes on eternally (1 Corinthians 13:8).  God’s “…love is patient, [God’s]…love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. [God’s]…love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres… [God’s]…love never fails” (1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 NIV).

“…What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who is against us? ...Who will separate us from the love of ^[Christ? Will tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? [NO] …But in all these things we overwhelmingly conquer through Him who loved us. … [Nothing]…will be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord…” (Romans 8:31-39 NASB).

“….neither death, nor life, nor angels nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate [you]… from the love of God which is “in” Christ Jesus our Lord” (Romans 8:38-39 KJV). It may not seem like it, but “….the…faithful love of the Lord, [for you], never ends...!”(Lamentations 3:22-23 NLT).

“…His faithful love endures forever. Give thanks to the God of gods….His faithful love endures forever……His faithful love endures forever…” (Psalm 136:1-3 NLT).  “….God careth for you… (1 Peter 5:7 KJV). “…How great is [God’s benevolent kindness], which [He lays] up for them that fear [Him]… [or] for them that take refuge in [Him]…” (Psalm 31:19-20 KJV).

A single woman or a married woman must FIRST “KNOW” HOW to be emotionally cared for or she will continue to be unhappy and emotionally abused.

A single woman or married woman must have a STANDARD in which to gauge the boundaries and balance of her emotional care or she will not KNOW the joy of receiving emotional care from others.

Emotionally care is NOT one-sided. Unloved women OFTEN send a message to those around them that says “I DON”T NEED YOU EMOTIONALLY” and that’s how they end up emotionally ALONE and STARVED.

Admit it, repent from it, turn to God and ask him to restore a healthy balance to you for receiving the emotional care from others. You have NOT truly loved emotionally until you have engaged in both GIVING and RECEIVING emotional care.

“…Beloved, let us love one another (including yourself): for love is of God; and every one that loveth (others and themselves) is born of God, and knoweth God. He that loveth not (others or themselves) knoweth not God; for God is love…” (1 John 4:4-8 KJV).

“….as I have loved you… love one another [and allow yourself to be loved]….” (John 13:34 ASV).  DON’T BE “…an unloved woman …” (Proverbs 30:23 NASB). GOD LOVES YOU!!!!

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