AN UNLOVED WOMAN: WHO TAKES CARE OF HER EMOTIONALCARE?

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CHAPTER 4: AN UNLOVED WOMAN’S UNATTENDED EMOTIONS: FEELINGS

 “…God will generously PROVIDE all you need. Then you will always have everything you need and plenty left over to “SHARE” WITH OTHERS…” (2 Corinthians 9:8 NLT).

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Some neuro-research indicates that women’s brains are wired differently than men’s brains and thus may explain why they seem to possess MORE emotional intelligence. “…God has given [HER]… different GIFTS for doing certain things well…” (Romans 12:6 NLT).

Supposedly men are more left brain, which makes them duty-oriented/rational and less emotional. Whereas women make use of the right brain more; which makes her feeling-oriented/emotional. “…every [woman, therefore,]… hath [HER]… proper GIFT of God...” (2 Corinthians 7:7 KJV).

Use of the right brain makes women keenly intuitive, relational, caregiving, nurturing, mothers, and often, skillfully tuned to her emotions (sometimes) and the emotions of others around her. . “…God has given [HER]… different GIFTS for doing certain things well…” (Romans 12:6 NLT).

However, use of the left brain makes men keenly organized, mechanical, innovative, visionaries, builders, protectors, coaches, driven, independent, authoritative, spiritual coverings, fathers, and are often, skillfully tuned to his expertise and the expertise of others around him.

Men are most likely interested in the organizational system of the world whether than the emotional and social aspects of it.

In addition to the use of brain hemispheres, the different physical make-up and hormones of males and females certainly aid in shaping their brains during each stage of human development.

If emotional skills are not learned in the appropriate life stages how can the brain develop the proper neutral paths for emotions? I would think the male child would not have adequately developed skills for emotions, or any sufficient brain capacity either.

Women, from early childhood, are taught to go up, up and away with their emotions while men are taught to take their emotions down, down and buried them in some forgotten emotional cemetery.

The GOOD news is that men and women are NOT locked into statistical ROLES. There are ALWAYS exceptions to established rules and scientific facts, especially in Christianity.

Let’s take a look at emotional intelligence (EI). What is so-called emotional intelligence? It is said to be the ability to recognize your OWN emotions when they come and manage them conducively while giving attention to the emotions of others.

In addition, emotional intelligence reveals the ability to identify one’s OWN emotions, skillfully handle those emotions, harness conflicting emotions, and direct those emotions to applicable and useful tasks.

Emotional intelligence demonstrates behaviors where one’s emotions are skillfully regulated to benefit one’s self and is generously useful for cheering or calming other people.

Emotional intelligence is something that is developed. It is useful for helping to understand, emphasize, comfort, care for, show compassion to, have a conscience about, and to skillfully relate to self and others.

Though many women are LOADED with developed and practiced emotional intelligence; a male can also develop the same ability.

As a woman, I noticed women develop their emotional intelligence through a motivated desire, social interchanges, and from a lifetime of being the primary caretaker of their OWN personal emotional care.

Most women have a motivated desire to deal with emotions. Therefore, they will make a constant, ongoing lifetime effort to discover, learn, practice, and apply healthy, positive skills that redirect, reframe, and promote functional emotions.

In addition, most women develop interpersonal skills that connect them with other people that inadvertently or purposefully build emotional bonds, provide nurturing, inspire, or that share emotional experiences or victories with.

Some women have had to be the primary caregiver of their OWN personal emotional care their WHOLE lives. They learned to recognize their OWN feelings, empathize with their OWN emotional needs, and apply MENDING or MANAGING skills to their OWN emotional care.

Many women LEARN to meet their own emotional needs because there is no one else to HELP, SUPPORT, or GUIDE them through them.

They developed autonomous skills and usually don’t rely on or trust in anyone else’s help. They learned to read their OWN emotions and empower themselves to regulate and manage them. They have become adept in understanding themselves and the emotions behind what they feel they may or may not need.

The behavior of women, who practice recognizing or identifying emotions in order to manage them, is the WHOLE idea behind the concept of emotional intelligence. In a nutshell, EI is to recognize and regulate emotions.

Emotional intelligence takes EFFORT and constant, ongoing PRACTICE. Emotions are tricky and you can’t always control when they will come, or how long they will stay, or how they will impact your life. But if you have some skills on how to recognize and regulate your emotions; you will be ahead of the game.

Being ahead of the game simply means you have certain skills that can assist you in reducing anger, anxiety, depression, and other negative emotions that come along with adverse situations or a life crisis.

In addition, when negative emotions come along with adverse situations or life crisis; an individual can use those skills to inform and guide their behavior.  

Some people rest, take a walk, meditate, exercise, pray, read the bible, listen to music, watch television, talk to a trusted friend or family member, or whatever it takes to return their emotions to a manageable state.

Without some level of emotional intelligence, both men and women can: lose emotional control, are unable to manage disruptive emotions, can’t problem solve, aren’t flexible, experience regular depression, have weight problems, deal with insomnia or hyper-insomnia, can’t seem to concentrate, is often fatigue, may have suicidal thoughts, and have a constantly bad attitude.

Emotional intelligence is a developed skill that enables a person to become proficient at managing their emotions.  Most, not all, women find a way or have more opportunities to develop this skill than men.

Does this mean women are more emotional than men? Not necessarily. . “…God has given [HER]… different GIFTS for doing certain things well…” (Romans 12:6 NLT).

They may be more emotionally developed or emotionally expressive, but I believe emotions are equally distributed to both men and women. “…God SHOWS NO FAVORITISM …” (Acts 10:34-36 NLT). “…God is no RESPECTER OF PERSONS…” (Acts 10:34-36 KJV).

God has emotions. “…God is LOVE…” (1 John 4:4-8 KJV). God’s love is full of emotional intelligence as well. “…Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is NOT self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres, Love never fails…” (1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 NIV).  “…..God created man in his own image…..male and female … after our likeness…” (Genesis 1:27-26 KJV).

“…God is LOVE…” (1 John 4:4-8 KJV). God’s emotional intelligence impacts his actions. For instance, God skillfully manages his anger. “…Love is…it is not easily angered…” (1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 NIV).

In addition, God skillfully managed his anger by sending his Son to die for the SINS of the rebellious people.  “…For God SO LOVED the world, that he GAVE…” (John 3:16). God “…SPARED NOT his own Son, but delivered him up FOR US ALL…” (Romans 8:32 KJV). ^“Now, most people would not be willing to die for an upright person, though someone might perhaps be willing to die for a person who is especially good. But God SHOWED HIS GREAT LOVE FOR US by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners…” (Romans 5:7-9 NLT).

Before God sent his Son he had to manage his emotions. His people had both forgotten him and abandon him. “…Yet for years on end my people have FORGOTten ME…” (Jeremiah 2:32 NLT). “… [YOU]… FORGOT all about ME,” says the Lord…” (Hosea 2:13 NLT). “…But my people have stubborn and rebellious hearts. They have turned away and ABANDONED me….” (JEREMIAH 5:23 NLT). “…They ABANDONED ME and did not obey my word….” (JEREMIAH 16:11 NLT).

So do women have more emotions than men? In my opinion and based on my research: NO. I have concluded that women’s emotional skills are just more developed. “…..God created man in his own image…..male and female … after our likeness…” (Genesis 1:27-26 KJV). “…God is LOVE…” (1 John 4:4-8 KJV). “…God SHOWS NO FAVORITISM …” (Acts 10:34-36 NLT). “…God is no RESPECTER OF PERSONS…” (Acts 10:34-36 KJV). “…God is not one to show partiality…” (Acts 10:34 NASB).

Men have emotions too, but most of them have NOT developed them nor do they have many opportunities to do so.

The world discourages the emotional development of men and do NOT provide many opportunities for them to express their emotions.

Unfortunately and unfairly men’s emotions are normally MUTED in the worldwide culture.

Men are almost forced to be duty-oriented and rational, but NOT intimate or relational. Yet men get a bad rap for being lousy, emotionally unengaged husbands as well as emotionally or physically absent fathers.

A man may desire to be a good husband and father, but have no emotional clue or skill how to get there. They will end up messing up relationships they wanted to sustain or hurting people they wanted to love.

I read somewhere about a clinical condition called alexithymia and it literally means the inability to put emotions into words. Guess what gender had this diagnosis the most: MALES. Has culture done males a serious and crippling disservice by forcing them to repress and disassociate with their emotions?

There is hope for men. Just because your emotions were not developed, or nurtured, or learned, or allowed to be expressed, or your brain doesn’t seem to have the neutral capacity, doesn’t mean it’s too late to learn or change things.

It means you may have to start at ground zero and build from there by paying attention to your OWN emotions FIRST and those around you. Otherwise you will remain emotionally disabled your WHOLE life.

Men ONLY need to become aware of their emotions so they can practice how to respond to life, events, wives, children, and others more quickly and allow themselves to become emotionally ENGAGED while demonstrating appropriate actions.

Emotions are NECESSARY for a Godly man. He is the PROVIDER. Emotional awareness will ASSIST a Godly man with stewarding the responsibilities of PROVIDING emotional care to his wife and family. “… Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her…” (Ephesians 5:25 NASB). “…So husbands ought also to love their own wives …” (Ephesians 5:28 NASB). “…each individual ..is to love his own wife …” (Ephesians 5:33 NASB). “…Husbands, love your wives and…” (Colossians 3:19 NASB).

“…God is LOVE…” (1 John 4:4-8 KJV). “…Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is NOT self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres, Love never fails…” (1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 NIV).  “…..God created man in his own image…..male and female … after our likeness…” (Genesis 1:27-26 KJV).

How can a Godly man, without an emotional clue or skill begin to demonstrate the EMOTIONAL care of Godly LOVE? “…It is God who works IN [the man]… TO WILL and TO ACT (DO)…” (Philippians 2:13 NIV). “…Jesus said unto him, If THOU CANST BELIEVE, ALL THINGS are possible to him that believeth…” (Mark 9:23 KJV). “…[The man]…. can DO ALL THINGS through Christ…” (Philippians 4:13 KJV). “… [The man is]…strengthened with might by [God’s]… Spirit in [his].. inner man…” (Ephesians 3:16 KJV). “…The God of peace, … that great Shepherd of the sheep, equip [the man]… with everything good for doing his will, and may he work in [him]… what is pleasing to him, through Jesus Christ, to whom be glory for ever and ever. Amen” (Hebrews 13:20-21 NIV). They can “…Walk in NEWNESS of life…” (Romans 6:4 KJV).

What happens to a woman, in the meantime, who is married to a man who does not have an emotional clue or emotional skills, or is in the process of learning from God?  She is to continue to be “ …a helpmeet for him”…” (Genesis 2:18 KJV). 

She should keep in mind,   “…The LORD God …brought her to the man…” (Genesis 2:22 NASB).  She remembers she was GIVEN a Gift. “…God has given [HER]… different GIFTS for doing certain things well…” (Romans 12:6 NLT). Therefore she KNOWS, “…God will generously PROVIDE all [she]… need[s]…. Then [she].. will always have everything [she needs]… and plenty left over to “SHARE” WITH OTHERS [including her husband]…” (2 Corinthians 9:8 NLT).

In addition, she TRUSTS that“…if (her husband) obey NOT the word, they…may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives…..let it (your HELPMEET calling) be the hidden [wo]man… of the heart…..the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit which is in the sight of God of great price. For after this manner in the old time the holy women also trusted in God, adorned themselves….. whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement….” (1 Peter 3:1-6 KJV).

Further, she STANDS on God’s Word. “…God has given [HER]… different GIFTS (emotional skills) for doing certain things well…” (Romans 12:6 NLT). God SAYS to the WOMAN:  “…I want it to be a willing gift, not one given grudgingly. Remember this—a farmer who plants only a few seeds will get a small crop. But the one who plants generously will get a generous crop. [The woman]…must each decide in [her]… heart how much to give [emotionally to her husband]. And don’t give reluctantly or in response to pressure. “For God loves a person who gives cheerfully.”  And God will generously provide all [the woman needs]. Then [she] will always have everything [she needs]… and plenty left over to share with others [including her husband]. As the Scriptures say, “ …[IF]…they (the woman) share freely and give generously to the poor [including the emotional poor]. Their good deeds will be remembered forever.” For God is the one who provides seed for the farmer and then bread to eat. In the same way, he will provide and increase [the woman’s]… resources and then produce a great harvest of generosity in [her]. Yes, [she]… will be enriched in every way so that [she]… can always be generous. And when [SHE]… [takes her].. gifts to those (her husband) who need them, they will thank God. So two good things will result from this ministry of giving—…(1) the needs of the believers (her husband)….will be met, and (2) they will joyfully express their thanks to God. As a result of [the woman’s]… ministry, [her husband]… will give glory to God. For [her]… generosity to [him] …will prove that [she is]… obedient to the Good News of Christ. And [the husband]… will pray for [her]…with deep affection because of the overflowing grace God has given to [him through her]. Thank God for this gift (the woman’s emotional skills) too wonderful for words!...” (2 Corinthians 9:3-16 NLT).

“…Seek ye FIRST the kingdom of God, and his righteousness….” (Matthew 6:33 KJV). “…Take no thought, saying What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Where withal shall we be clothed? …your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things…” (Matthew 6 KJV).

A woman is to concentrate on her ROLE and her God-given calling as a HELPMEET. “…Seek ye FIRST the kingdom of God, and his righteousness….” (Matthew 6:33 KJV). “…[Her]… heavenly Father knoweth that [she has]… need of all these things…” (Matthew 6 KJV).

It is NOT her JOB to change or judge her husband; it is God’s and God’s alone. “…whatsoever [the woman does], [Let her]…do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men…” (Colossians 3:23 KJV).

When a man doesn’t treat one of God’s daughter’s properly; he has NOT treated God properly either. “….Verily I say unto you, inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these, my brethren (or my daughters), YE HAVE DONE IT TO ME…” (Matthew 25:40 KJV).  “… to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin…” (James 4:17 KJV).

The woman needs ONLY to TRUST God to AVENGE her honor. “…DO NOT repay evil with evil or insult with insult…” (1 Peter 3:9 NIV). “..Avenge not yourselves, beloved, but give place unto the wrath of God, for it is written: "Vengeance belongeth unto to me; I will recompense (repay)," saith the Lord…” (Romans 12:19 ASV). “…[They]…HAVE DONE IT TO ME [also]…” (Matthew 25:40 KJV).  

The woman needs ONLY to continue being an obedient servant to God as HELPMEET and allow God to take care of her concerns. “…The LORD “WILL” accomplish (take care of)…that which concerns [you]…” (John 14:31 NASB). “...Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.” (1 Peter 5:7 KJV). “……your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things…” (Matthew 6 KJV).

God will TOTALLY care for his daughters in ALL ways. “...he careth for you…” (1 Peter 5:7 KJV). “…The LORD “WILL” … [take care of]…that which concerns … [you]…” (John 14:31 NASB).

 The woman can confidently and assuredly put her husband into God’s hands and know God will work it together for GOOD. “…We know the one who said, “I will take revenge. I will pay them back.” He also said, “The Lord will judge his own people…” (Hebrews 10:30-31 NLT). “…It is a dreadful thing to fall into the hands of the living God…: (Hebrews 10:31 NIV). “…It is a terrible thing to fall into the hands of the living God…” (Hebrews 10:31 NLT). “… It is a terrifying thing to fall into the hands of the living God…” (Hebrews 10:31 NASB). “…It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God…” (Hebrews 10:31 KJV).

“...ALL THINGS work together for good …” (ROMANS 8:28 KJV).

Marriage is ABOUT God’s purposes. When men and woman think marriage is ONLY about them and getting THEIR needs met; they have a LIMITED vision for the purpose of even their OWN so-called Godly marriage.

When women get married ONLY to get THEIR needs met; it is no wonder she can become an odious woman. .  “…an odious woman when she is married…” (Proverbs 30:23 KJV). “…a contemptible woman when she is married…” (Proverbs 30:23 NIV). “…a bitter woman who finally gets a husband…” (Proverbs 30:23 NLT).

Marriage is a place where certain needs can be met, however, they are the benefits - companionship, sexual enjoyment, fruit of the womb, opposite equals that complement, mutual help, available comfort, etc. - of a Godly marriage NOT the designed purpose of it. “…Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it…. nourisheth and cherisheth it…for this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh…” (Ephesians 5:22-33 KJV).

One of the main purposes for MARRIAGE is for the husband and wife to become living WITNESSES “OF” the DIVINE relationship between Christ and the church (his people...his bride). “…Wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord….the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church and he is he savior of the body……therefore, as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it….no man ever yet hated his own flesh, but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church….for this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church….…” (Ephesians 5:22-33 KJV).

Marriage is for God’s glory. It should be entered into for the purpose of illustrating the relationship between Christ and the church, HIS BRIDE. “… This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church….. …” (Ephesians 5:22-33 KJV).

God designed marriage and it is MEANT to be a visible example of    Christ’s LOVE for his OWN bride, the church. “…Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it…” (Ephesians 5:22-33 KJV).

Both the man and woman must come to realize they were GIFTED with marriage, BUT for God’s plans and to serve HIS purposes; NOT simply THEIR OWN! “…I wish everyone were single, just as I am. Yet each person has a special gift (to be married) from God, of one kind or another…” (1 Corinthians 7:7 NLT).

In marriage, the husband and wife, is to steward the responsibility of being living witnesses for the relationship between Christ and the body of believers (the church or the bride of Christ). “…As every man hath received the gift (of marriage), even so minister … as good stewards of the manifold GRACE of God…” (1 Peter 4:10 KJV).

Jesus died, and GAVE his life up for his bride. “For Christ …. died for sins ONCE for all, the just for the unjust, so that He might bring us to God, having been put to death in the flesh, but made alive in the spirit…” (1 Peter 3:18 NASB). “… Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures; And ...he was buried, and …he rose again the third day according to the scriptures…” (1 Corinthians 15:3-4 KJV).

Jesus beautifies his bride by sanctifying her through the “one spirit” attachment and makes her HOLY.  “But he that is joined (attached) unto the LORD is ONE SPIRIT…” (1 Corinthians 6:17 KJV). “…Christ ….loved the church, and GAVE himself for it; That he might SANCTIFY and CLEANSE it, with the washing of water by the word….” (Ephesians 5:25-25 KJV). “… The God of peace Himself SANCTIFY you ENTIRELY…” (1 Thessalonians 5:23 NASB). “…May God himself, the God who makes everything holy and whole, make you holy and whole…” (1 Thessalonians 5:23-24 MSG). “…HE CHOSE US in Him before the foundation of the world, that we would BE HOLY AND BLAMELESS BEFORE HIM.…” (Ephesians 1 NLT). “…be holy, because I am holy…” (1 Peter 1:16 KJV).  “God has chosen you from the beginning for SALVATION through SANCTIFICATION by the Spirit and faith in the truth…” (2 Thessalonians 2:13 NASB). “…God has sent forth the Spirit of His Son “INTO” OUR HEARTS…” (Galatians 4:6 NASB).  “….ye are SANCTIFIED …in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the SPIRIT of our GOD…” (1 Corinthians 6:9-11 KJV). “…He restoreth my SOUL…” (Psalm 23 KJV).

Because Jesus POURS himself or his GLORIOUS Spirit into his bride; his BRIDE in turn glorifies him. “…God has sent forth the Spirit of His Son “INTO” (his BRIDE, the CHURCH)…[their]… HEARTS…” (Galatians 4:6 NASB). “ …The Spirit of God dwelleth in [Jesus’ BRIDE]…” (1 Corinthians 3:16 KJV). “…Your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you (his bride, the church)…” (1 Corinthians 6:19 KJV). “…God hath said, I will dwell in them (Jesus’ bride, the church)…” (2 Corinthians 6:16 KJV). “…The Spirit of God dwell[s]… in you (Jesus BRIDE, the CHURCH)…” (Romans 8:9 KJV).

“…Ye shall know [Jesus’ BRIDE, his CHURCH)… by their fruits…” (Matthew 7:16 KJV). “…The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance…” (Galatians 5:22-23 KJV). "…My Father is glorified by this, that you bear much fruit, and so PROVE to be My [BRIDE or church]…” (John 15:8 NIV).

Jesus shows care, for his bride, through his unending provisions of selfless acts of Godly love GIVEN through the indwelling HOLY Spirit. “…The LORD “WILL” accomplish (take care of)…that which concerns [you]…” (John 14:31 NASB). “...Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.” (1 Peter 5:7 KJV).  “…God shall supply ALL YOUR NEED according to his riches in glory BY Christ Jesus…” (1 Corinthians 6:17 & Philippians 4:19 KJV). “….the riches of [his]… glory…which is Christ in you…” (Colossians 1:27 KJV).

In EVERY relationship there is a GIVER and RECEIVER. This doesn’t mean the giver doesn’t receive or the receiver doesn’t give; it has to do with the responsibility that comes with RANK or ORDER. “…For Adam was first formed, then Eve…” (1 Timothy 2:13 KJV). “…God is not a God of disorder but of peace…” (1 Corinthians 14:33 NIV). “…Let all things be done decently and in order….” (1 Corinthians 14:40 KJV). “…The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord…” (Psalm 37:23-40 KJV).

God gives to Christ, Christ gives to the man, and the man gives to the woman. “…the HEAD  (covering) of EVERY man is Christ and the HEAD (covering) of the woman is man; and the HEAD (covering) of Christ is GOD….” (1 Corinthians 11:3 KJV).

“…From everyone who has been given much, much will be required; and to whom they entrusted much, of him they will ask all the more…” (Luke 12:48 NASB). With Godly RANK, such as HEADSHIP, comes GREAT responsibility.

It is NOT just a title for men to beat their chest and take pride in THINKING they are simply the BOSS, but it is a God-given responsibility. “…When someone has been given much, much will be required in return; and when someone has been entrusted with much, even more will be required…” (Luke 12:48 NLT).

Because of his RANK, the husband is generously empowered, by the indwelling Holy Spirit, with manly talents, physical strength, protective skills, vision, husbandman abilities, knowledge, and all the riches of God’s glory. “…God has given us different GIFTS for doing certain things well…” (Romans 12:6 NLT). “…every man hath his proper GIFT of God...” (2 Corinthians 7:7 KJV). “…Thanks be unto God for his unspeakable GIFT(S)…” (2 Corinthians  9:16 KJV). “…His divine power hath given unto us ALL THINGS that pertain unto life and godliness…” (2 Peter 1:3 KJV).

The husband is required to use those GIFTS to glorify God and benefit those who are entrusted to his care. “…O people, the Lord has told you what is good, and this is what he requires of you: to do what is right, TO LOVE MERCY (grace), and to walk humbly with your God…” (Micah 6:8 NLT). “…He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the Lord require of thee, but to do justly, and TO LOVE MERCY (GRACE), and to walk humbly with thy God?” (Micah 6:8 KJV).

Whatever RANK, ORDER, or God-given ROLE you have been GIFTED with you are to ALWAYS concentrate on being GOOD STEWARDS of your OWN responsibilities and NOT those of others. “…It is required of stewards that one be found trustworthy…” (1 Corinthians 4:2 NASB).

When God returns YOU want to be found faithful!!!  “…And the Lord replied, “A faithful, sensible servant is one to whom the master can give the responsibility of managing his other household servants and feeding them. If the master returns and finds that the servant has done a good job, there will be a reward.  … But what if the servant thinks, ‘My master won’t be back for a while,’ and he begins beating the other servants, partying, and getting drunk? The master will return unannounced and unexpected, and he will cut the servant in pieces and banish him with the unfaithful. “And a servant who knows what the master wants, but isn’t prepared and doesn’t carry out those instructions, will be severely punished…” (Luke 12:42-47 NLT).

You want God to say, “…‘Well done, good and faithful [daughter, son]…. You were faithful with a few things…” (Matthew 25:21 NASB).

To the unloved woman whose emotions are unattended put ALL your concerns into God’s hands. RETURN to the JOY of your SALVATION in CHRIST!!! “…God will generously PROVIDE all you need. Then you will always have everything you need and plenty left over to “SHARE” WITH OTHERS…” (2 Corinthians 9:8 NLT).

God will do this for you: “…I will lead the BLIND by ways they have not known, along “unfamiliar” paths I will guide them; I will turn the darkness into light before them and make the rough places smooth. These are the things I will do; I will not forsake (emotionally) them…” (Isaiah 42:16 NIV).