FOOD FOR THOUGHT
ARE YOU AN UNLOVED WOMAN?
****EMOTIONAL DIVORCE IS CRUEL WHETHER MARRIED OR NOT!
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Divorce is NOT something that happens when
a man and woman are awarded a legal certificate of divorce. “…It was said, ‘Whoever
sends his wife away, let him give her a certificate
of divorce’…” (Matthew 5:31NASB). “…but I say to you that everyone who divorces
his wife, except for the reason of unchastity, makes her commit adultery…” (Matthew 5:32 NASB).
Divorce is something that happens
because one or both partners emotionally divorced long before going to
court. “…Some Pharisees came and tried to trap him
with this question: “Should a man be
allowed to divorce his wife for just any reason?” “Haven’t you read the Scriptures?” Jesus replied. “They record that from the beginning ‘God made
them male and female.’[” And he said, “‘This explains why a
man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are
united into one.’ Since
they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined
together.” “Then why did Moses say in the law that a man could give his wife a
written notice of divorce and send her away?”[ they asked. Jesus
replied, “Moses permitted
divorce only as a concession
to your hard hearts, but it was not what God had
originally intended…”
(Matthew 19:3-8 NLT).
We are specifically talking about the
emotional divorce of the unloved woman. “…To divorce your wife is to overwhelm
her with cruelty,” says
the Lord of Heaven’s Armies. “…”
(Malachi 2:16 NLT).
How is an unloved woman
overwhelmed with cruelty (meanness, unkindness, spitefulness, etc)? She is
forgotten and emotionally forsaken within the supposedly safety of marriage or a committed relationship. “…God has said “Never will I leave you (physically forget you); never will I forsake you (or emotionally abandon you)…”
(Hebrews 13:5 NIV).
An unloved woman’s
groom vowed, on their wedding day, never to forget about her or abandon her,
but he has done both. God is the standard for keeping vows and promises. He
says, “…I will not forsake [you]…”
(Isaiah 42:16 NIV). “…I am with you always, to the very end…"(Matthew 28:20 NIV). “…[God’s love]… always
perseveres… [God’s]…love never fails…” (1 Corinthians 13:
4-8 NIV).
The husband has done to
his wife what the Israelites did to God over and over again in the Old
Testament; they forgot about him and abandoned him. “…And
because you have FORGOTten ME and turned your back on me, this is what the Sovereign Lord says:
You must bear the consequences…” (Ezekiel 23:35 NLT).“… [YOU]… FORGOT all about ME,” says the Lord…”
(Hosea 2:13 NLT). “… When you had eaten
and were satisfied, you became proud and FORGOT ME….”
(Hosea 13:6 NLT). “…Does a young woman
forget her jewelry, or a bride her wedding dress? Yet
for years on end my people have FORGOTten
ME…” (Jeremiah 2:32 NLT). He told Israel: “….Do not
forget that [it was God that]… led you through ... He gave you water …He fed
you...”
(Deuteronomy 8:17-17 NLT).
“…But my people have stubborn and
rebellious hearts. They have turned away and ABANDONED me….”
(JEREMIAH 5:23 NLT). “…They ABANDONED ME and did not obey my word….” (JEREMIAH 16:11 NLT).“….They ABANDONED the Lord, the God of their ancestors, who had brought them
out of Egypt. They went after other gods (IDOLS)…” (Judges 2:12 NLT).
“…They ABANDONED the Lord to serve Baal (THEIR OWN INTEREST)…”
(Judges 2:13 NLT). “….They ABANDONED the Lord and no longer served him at all…”
(Judges 10:6 NLT). “…Ever since I brought
them from Egypt they have continually ABANDONED ME
and followed other gods (OWN INTEREST)…” (1 Samuel 8:8 NLT). “…He ABANDONED Lord,
the God of his ancestors, and he refused to follow the Lord’s
ways…” (2 Kings 21:22 NLT). “…For my people have ABANDONED ME and offered
sacrifices to pagan gods (OWN INTEREST)…” (2 Kings 22:17 NLT).“…He ABANDONED
the Law of the Lord, and all Israel followed him in this sin…”
(2 Chronicles 12:1 NLT). “…They ABANDONED the Lord… they
turned their backs on him….” (2 Chronicles 29:6 NLT).
The unloved woman is overwhelmed by the
enduring experiences of being forgotten by her husband and emotionally
abandoned by him. “…[she]… is overwhelm
[ed]…with cruelty,” says
the Lord of Heaven’s Armies. “…”
(Malachi 2:16 NLT).
She thought she would be loved, especially
based on their mutually vows. The vows which rightfully merged them into a
sacred relationship where they would belong to each other and care for each
other as long as they both shall live. Just like ALL believers “….belong
to God…” (1 John 4:4 NLT). AND “...he
careth for [them]…” (1 Peter 5:7 KJV).
After a while an unloved woman will either
turn to God for help or become odious and treat her husband in contemptible,
hateful, and bitter ways. “….During that
time all Israel mourned because it seemed the Lord had ABANDONED them….” (1
Samuel 7:2 NLT). The truth is; they had abandoned God.
When
the husband realizes it was him that abandoned his wife and not the other way
around; he may experience what the Israelites experienced. “…They cried out to the Lord for help, saying, “…We have sinned against you because we have ABANDONED
you as our God...” (Judges 10:10 NLT). “…The
people of Judah had ABANDONED the Lord ….”
(2 Chronicles 24:24 NLT).
"…The man who hates and divorces his wife," says the LORD, the God of Israel, "does
violence to the one he should protect,"
says the LORD Almighty… So be
on your guard, and do not be unfaithful…” (Malachi 2:16 NIV). "…For I hate divorce," says the LORD, the
God of Israel, "and him who covers his
garment with wrong," says the LORD of hosts. "So take heed to your spirit, that
you do not deal treacherously…" (Malachi 2:16 NASB).
When an unloved woman is forgotten and
abandoned by her husband, he has not ONLY done this to her, but to God. “….Verily I say unto you, inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of
these, my brethren, YE
HAVE DONE IT TO ME…” (Matthew 25:40 KJV). “… to him that knoweth to do good,
and doeth it not, to him it is sin…”
(James 4:17 KJV).
To the unloved woman: “…DO NOT
repay evil with evil or insult with insult…” (1 Peter 3:9 NIV). “..Avenge not yourselves, beloved, but give place unto the wrath of God, for it is written: "Vengeance belongeth unto
to me; I
will recompense (repay)," saith the Lord…” (Romans 12:19 ASV). “…[They]…HAVE DONE IT TO ME [also]…” (Matthew 25:40 KJV).
“…The LORD “WILL” accomplish
(take care of)…that which concerns [you]…” (John 14:31 NASB). “...Casting all your care upon
him; for he
careth for you.” (1 Peter 5:7 KJV). “……your
heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things…”
(Matthew 6 KJV).
God will TOTALLY care
for the unloved woman in ALL ways. “...he careth for you…” (1 Peter 5:7 KJV). “…The
LORD “WILL” … [take care of]…that which concerns … [you]…”
(John 14:31 NASB).
She can put her husband into God’s hands. “…We
know the one
who said, “I will take revenge.
I will pay them back.”
He also said, “The Lord will
judge his own people…”
(Hebrews 10:30-31 NLT). “…It is a dreadful thing to fall into the hands of the living God…:
(Hebrews 10:31 NIV). “…It is a terrible thing to fall into the hands of the living God…”
(Hebrews 10:31 NLT). “… It is a terrifying thing to fall into the hands of the living God…”
(Hebrews 10:31 NASB). “…It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God…” (Hebrews
10:31 KJV).
Where is the unloved woman ABUSED the
most? Emotionally. Where is the unloved woman NEGLECTED the most? Emotionally.
Where is does the unloved woman experience the most cruelty? Emotionally. What did Jesus come to do for the unloved woman?
“…to set at liberty
them that are bruised”…”
(Acts 10:38-39 KJV).
Jesus was sent “…to
preach the gospel to the poor; he
hath sent [him]… to heal
the brokenhearted, to preach deliverance
to the captives, and recovering
of sight to the blind, to set at liberty them
that are bruised…[jesus]…went about doing good, and healing all that were oppressed of the
devil…” (John
4:16-21 & Acts 10:38-39 KJV).
An unloved woman is a
woman without the proper emotional care from her husband, from herself, from
her childhood, from her teachers, from her surrounding family, or from her
other environments.
Though she deeply
desires to be emotionally cared for; she may NOT even know what it is or she
may NOT have EVER been emotionally cared for, or she may have learned to LIVE
without emotional care.
Thus, the weakest and
even the strongest woman, is EMOTIONALLY ABUSED in MANY ways.
The need to be
emotionally cared for is so hardwired into a woman’s core being that she can
easily wither away, like a unkempt flower garden, without it.
The “Food for thought”
question is this: Are you emotionally forgotten? Abandoned? Uncared for? Are
you an unloved woman? If so, this book may be for you.
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THANKS IN ADVANCE,
DR. PENSACOLA H. JEFFERSON
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