HOSETTA: THE DIVORCE; CHAPTER 11

CHAPTER 11

HOSETTA: THE DIVORCE

“...by rejecting the Son of God, they themselves are nailing him to the cross once again and holding him up to public shame. …” (Hebrews 6:4-8 NLT).

“…You have fallen away from God’s GRACE…” (Galatians 5:4 NLT).

“... IN LATTER TIMES “SOME” SHALL [CHOOSE OR DECIDE TO] ...DEPART FROM the [CHRISTIAN] ... FAITH !!!!...” (1 Timothy 4:1-3 KJV).

“...Take heed, BRETHREN, lest there be in any of you an evil heart of unbelief, in departing from the living God...” (Hebrews 3:12 KJV).

“...If ye continue in the faith ... and be not moved away from the hope of the gospel ...” (Colossians 1:22-23 KJV).

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Hosetta needed to recover and she needed to go home to Scottsdale to do it. That was April 2015. Hosetta wrote in her journal for December 2018: “I received a petition for divorce from George today? A divorce would mean their marriage was legally terminated. All the legal duties and responsibilities Hosetta and George had, for one another, would be canceled and the vows, under the rule of law, would no longer binding.

Being the gentleman that he had become George asked her for a divorce over the phone in August of 2018.

He later texted her and said they needed to discuss it further. Hosetta replied with this text: “...I said “I DO’ 30+ years ago and I have never said “I DON’T”. I do not choose the path of divorce, but for you, George, I will.  Zest...”

A couple of months or so earlier George had requested a separation and she asked him if he was talking divorce and George said, “...If I wanted a divorce, Zest. I would have divorced your ass a long time ago...”

Hosetta thought this was too serious to discuss over the phone. She respected, the fact, regardless of his recent behavior, that he had been her husband and companion for 30+ years. The least she could do was discuss, something so serious, with him face to face, grown up to grown up, or man to woman.

Hosetta begged and borrowed to get a ticket and find a place to stay, so she could, go to Virginia, and talk to George. Hosetta didn’t think she could stay with George in the home they once shared.

Because of his obvious and blatant mistreatment of her, she no longer trusted him; nor could she risk entrusting her care to him either.

Hosetta called George and suggested they meet and he wanted to know where. When she suggested a place, George didn’t want to go there and she didn’t want to go where George suggested.

Hosetta simply didn’t trust George anymore. She felt bad that it had come to that, but he HAD changed. She didn’t want to be with him alone and especially any place she didn’t feel safe. George had SHOWN her who he was NOW and she believed him.

Hosetta never met with George and later he called and said “... I want a divorce...” All Hosetta said was “...Okay...” Her cognitive energy was spent and she was willing to give George the divorce he asked for.

Once, George asked for a divorce, as far as Hosetta was concerned, there was NOTHING left to say. George’s character and conduct had already SPOKE volumes to her, for the last several months, and she’d listened.

George had choices and he didn’t have to choose to keep his vows to her. He was FREE to do as he pleased with his human will.

Hosetta had come to respect George’s right to choose the life he wanted to live; even if it didn’t include her. It is what it is and George is George.

The paperwork went back and forth between them and their lawyers. Court dates were canceled, postponed, rescheduled, and delayed for about 7 months before the final day arrived.

George wanted the original Bill of Complaint, where he gave her the military pension - which is normally granted to military wives under the 20/20/20 rule any way - and he wanted to keep everything else. In addition, he wanted her to, simply, sign the house over to him.

HOSETTA had had brain surgery not a lobotomy.

He bucked at the counter-complaint. George seemed convinced that what he offered her, in the beginning, was fair enough.

George would be starting over with what they had accumulated together and she would be starting over with a few hundred dollars a month.

Hosetta was a disabled,  50+ year old woman, who’d been married for 34 years, and had made plans for her future, older age, with a husband and now, was she supposed to START OVER with kibbles and bits.

Pension, alimony, and material possessions, according to the court, is all that was LEFT of her 34+ year old marriage. She would have whether had the love story, or the happy ending, or the miracle, but it wasn't meant to be. It is what it is and this is where they were.

Now she had to go to court and justify why, her husband, of 34+ years, should HELP her financially or at least, be FAIR and share their accumulations equitably. Hosetta realized, in a court of law, they can’t really be fair or just without some EVIDENCE.

What Hosetta had REALLY invested, in her 34 year marriage to George such as love, support, kindness, her strong years, her youth, her grace, her mercy, her sacrifices, her time, her hopes, dreams, or any other intangible valuables could NEVER be proven in a court of law.

When Hosetta stopped and thought about the monetary divide, she was asking George for, it was a SMALL compensation for the CURRENCY called her life, which she'd SPENT with him, on him, and for him.  I would love to have the currency of my life back, but a donation is a donation.There will ALWAYS be valuable LOSSES in a divorce and you will have, no choice, but to LET THEM GO! It is what it is.

Hosetta had truly LOVED George, whether he realized, believed, or accepted it or not. She had poured and SPENT the currency of her life upon her marriage to him and she will NEVER get it back. It is what it is!

George had abandoned her and forsook her while she experienced the worst thing that ever happened to her, and it wounded her heart. What would she had done without God?

Alimony won’t make up for his treatment. Pension won’t make up for his treatment. Material possession won’t make up for his treatment either.

George was fighting so hard for the material things; not for her or any part of the life he had shared with her. Both his parents were dead and the Virginia house was George’s home. Though he'd hurt her, she wasn't trying to hurt him. She didn't want revenge and in spite of it all, she STILL had love for him. She decided she wasn’t going to take it from him. He could have the house. He could have it ALL. She simply wanted a FAIR chance to start over too!

Hosetta let her lawyer know her decision. All Hosetta ended up asking for was a small monetary amount a month  and all her personal belongings. George could have all the rest!

What they'd had material-wise was valued in the millions, but it was meaningless to her now.  

Even though George didn’t want to give her much, at the end, his lawyer asked Hosetta would Hosetta be WILLING to keep her name on the house until George could secure his own financing.

If Hosetta would have said no, the house would have been sold, IMMEDIATELY, by the court, and the proceeds divided equally between them, but she DIDN’T say no. She willingly GAVE George the time he needed to secure financing.

Hosetta agreed to let George retain the home in Virginia and she voluntarily waived any and ALL rights, interests, or claim to it.

First George’s lawyer asked would she be WILLING to keep her name on the mortgage for six months, then fourteen months, and then two years and Hosetta said yes to all three requests.

The unconditionally LOVE of God was STILL presence and working his goodness, in her heart, toward George. She STILL loved him with God's kind of love. Though George had treated her terribly, her response was "her choice;" not his. "....love COVERS a multitude of sin...." "...you will know MY DISCIPLES by the way they love one another..." 

Hosetta signed the decree, willfully and voluntarily, giving George the house and ALL the furnishings! No matter what he told others, she KNEW that he KNEW what God had DONE! ".....love never fails...."

Outside the court she heard one of his supporters say, “...Let’s go celebrate...” Hosetta signed and went, to lunch, to fellowship with her family and close friends.

The divorce took place on July 15th, 2019. Hosetta’s little disability money was so depleted from running back and forth to Virginia the past 7 months, that she tried to get the court to move, the date, until September. She was so certain they would, she’d made no plans to go to Virginia. Plus, she hadn’t asked her witnesses to attend and she had no money.

Candice, her lawyer, however, informed her the court WOULD NOT postpone the divorce trial any further. Hosetta HAD to be there.

Hosetta PANICKED. George’s team was getting ready. They had gathered over 400 pieces of documents against her, they had subpoenaed every piece of information they could get their hands on, George had new witnesses, and he was determined to prove she didn’t need any thing else from him; but the military retirement and that’s it.

Hosetta HAD no one lined up and she had no money. Her mother couldn't come until September, two of her witnesses worked, and she didn’t think she could ask them to come to court, with her, at the last minute. They had already taken off, from work, so many other times and nothing happened. Plus, Hosetta couldn’t afford a ticket or a hotel.

Somehow God worked his goodness through, so many situations, people and she was HELPED. It was amazing! Oscar was there, Leah and her husband, Kory was there, The Gilberts were there, and her mother, Louisa Benson was there too. Every one of them showed up. She felt loved, supported, and surrounded by a mighty army! It bought her heart to tears to see God's love and grace through each one of them.

Hosetta wouldn’t wish a divorce on anyone. It is one of the most horrible of human experiences. It is the RIPPING apart of two lives and can be "felt" emotionally, physically, spiritually, mentally, and financially!  

Once she got to the court house, she was breathing hard  breaking into a cold sweat, and she felt nauseous. She was nervous, anxious, and concerned her cognitive abilities would let her down on the witness stand.

She trusted God and knew it was going to be okay, but she STILL had to go into the court room - which reminded her of how the Hebrew boys must have felt going into the fiery furnace and facing the  very HOT experience. As she was walking to the entrance of the courtroom she also thought about how  Job had to face his tragedies, Daniel had to face the lion’s den, and Peter had to face a trial which could end in his death by the sword.

For Hosetta, she had to face this divorce INSIDE this courtroom. She walked by George and she dared to speak to him, which made her panic more. She thought, “...George and his lawyer are going to rake me over the coals on the witness stand and my cognitive strength and memory might let me down....”  Hosetta had READ the following scriptures: “...they brought Daniel and threw him into the lions’ den ......” (Daniel 6:16-18 NIV).

 “… [King] …Nebuchadnezzar full of fury ...commanded the most mighty men that were in his army to bind Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego, and to cast them into the burning fiery furnace…” (DANIEL 3).

“... a messenger came to Job and said, “The oxen were plowing and the donkeys were grazing nearby, and the Sabeans attacked and made off with them...“The fire of God fell from the heavens and burned up the sheep and the servants ...“The Chaldeans formed three raiding parties and swept down on your camels and made off with them. ...“Your sons and daughters were feasting and drinking wine at the oldest brother’s house, when suddenly a mighty wind swept in from the desert and struck the four corners of the house. It collapsed on them and they are dead, and I am the only one who has escaped to tell you!” (Job 1:13-20 NIV).

“...It was about this time that King Herod arrested some who belonged to the church, intending to persecute them. He had James, the brother of John, put to death with the sword ...he proceeded to seize Peter also ...Herod intended to bring him out for public trial after the Passover. So Peter was kept in prison...” (Acts 12:1-5 NIV).

HER IMAGINATION WENT WILD: She was thinking her bible story might say: Hosetta Jarrett went to get a divorce in Virginia and they THREW her into the courtroom... Hosetta was, however, comforted by the mighty army that surrounded her and they reminded her of God’s help and deliverance. Hosetta HEARD God's word whisper in her heart: “...God is ...a very present help in trouble...” (Psalms 46:1 KJV). “…He helps me…” (Psalms 28:7 NLT). “… The Sovereign Lord helps me…” (Isaiah 50:7 NLT).  “…You are my helper…” (Psalms 40:17 NLT).

“…[God is]…Your rock and Your fortress, your deliverer, Your GOD, Your rock, in whom [you can] … take refuge…" (Psalms 18:3 NASB). “...No weapon that is formed against ...[God’s people]... shall prosper…This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord…” (Isaiah 54:17 KJV). “….All things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose…” (Hebrews 13:5 & ROMANS 8:28 KJV). “…ye thought evil against me; but God meant it unto good…” (Genesis 50:20 KJV), “...overwhelming victory is ours in christ ...” (Romans 8:37 NLT).

There were other divorces before the Jarrett’s and Hosetta sat anxiously on the front bench. To her surprise Candice called her out of the courtroom into a private room to talk to her. She said the judge suggested that she and George try to settle this, out of court, because if they came into HIS courtroom he was DEFINITELY selling the house and ALIMONY would be on the table.

Candice and Hosetta went over a settlement proposal. Candice and George’s lawyer went back and forth in several small battles. Hosetta was concerned for Candice, but she said the most profound thing to Hosetta, “... don’t worry about this battle Mrs. Jarrett, the Holy Spirit told me to fight for you...” Hosetta was in tears.

Her lawyer had also said,  “...I want you to be just like Peter, sleeping between the two guards“ "...if God is for us, Mrs. Jarrett, who could be against us...” “...we can do all things through Christ who strengths us....” “...you are going to get everything you want and need, today, Mrs. Jarrett...”

Hosetta's heart was MOVED to tears at her lawyer's ministering words. She NEVER had to open her mouth, in the courtroom, and neither did her witnesses! She thought about scriptures she'd studied about King Jehoshaphat when he was facing a mighty army. “… Jehoshaphat was terrified by this news...” (2 Chronicles 20:1-30 NLT).

Hosetta found comfort in WHO God would be, for her, personally,  during her divorce process. “...God is our refuge and strength, always ready to help in times of trouble. So we will not fear when earthquakes come and the mountains crumble into the sea. Let the oceans roar and foam ...“Be still, and know that I am God ... The Lord of Heaven’s Armies is here among us; the God of Israel is our fortress...” (Psalms 46 NLT).

Hosetta SAW God FIGHT for her and he TOOK CARE of everything that concerned her.  God's WORD is true. “…He helps me…” (Psalms 28:7 NLT). . “…If God is for us, who is against us? ... …” (Romans 8:31-39 NASB).

“… The Holy Spirit helps us in our weakness…” (Romans 8:26 NLT). “…He said, … Do not be afraid or discouraged ...the Lord is with you!” (2 Chronicles 20:1-30 NLT). “…the battle is not yours, but God’s. …...” (2 Chronicles 20:1-30 NLT). “…you will not even need to fight...” (2 Chronicles 20:1-30 NLT).

“…Take your positions; then stand still..” (2 Chronicles 20:1-30 NLT).

“…watch the Lord’s victory...” (2 Chronicles 20:1-30 NLT).

“…No weapon that is formed against [YOU]… shall prosper…” (Isaiah 54:17 KJV).

GOD'S WORD IS TRUE!

When Hosetta went back into the courtroom, she NEVER went on the WITNESS stand. Her witnesses NEVER went on the WITNESS stand. God had fought for her and she kept her position of STANDING, trustingly, in his loving care.

George, his lawyer, or his witnesses NEVER got to SPEAK one single word. NONE of the 400 documents, they’d gathered, were able to be USED against her.

The most MAJOR thing Hosetta had to do in the courtroom, that day, was sign the divorce degree!

Later Candice, her Christian warrior, lawyer, said, “....Mrs. Jarrett God is crazy about you. I saw his favor all over you today...”

WOOHOO!! “...overwhelming victory is ours ...” "in" Christ Jesus (Romans 8:37 NLT). Hosetta SAW it with her "OWN" eyes,

For Hosetta, the VICTORY was not the divorce settlement, even though she was appreciative of all that God blessed her to have.

For her the VICTORY was SEEING, with her OWN eyes, GOD’s GLORY (his presence, his goodness, and his power) through the PROCESS.

Hosetta KNEW that she KNEW, “…The Lord helps [his people] …” (Psalms 37:40 NLT).

The story of Peter, sitting and sleeping, PEACEFULLY and CONTENTLY, between two soldiers was written for ENCOURAGEMENT so that God’s people, TODAY, might continue to HOPE in his promises INSIDE the STORMS and courtrooms of life! “…For whatsoever things were written aforetime were written for our learning, that we through patience and comfort of the scriptures might have hope” (Romans 15:4 KJV).

GOD WAS IN THE PROCESS AS HOSETTA AND GEORGE WERE DIVORCED. God's WORD is true “… The Holy Spirit helps us in our weakness…” (Romans 8:26 NLT). “…He said, … Do not be afraid or discouraged ...the Lord is with you!” (2 Chronicles 20:1-30 NLT). “…the battle is not yours, but God’s. …...” (2 Chronicles 20:1-30 NLT). “…you will not even need to fight...” (2 Chronicles 20:1-30 NLT). 

The question she had been asked and the one she'd asked herself: "...how does God get GLORY out of a divorce?..." She used to say: "...I don't know, but he CAN..." 

HOSETTA’S DIVORCE FROM GEORGE WAS GOD'S MESSAGE TO "HIS" PEOPLE. The message was that God loves his people unconditionally and he is in a covenant relationship with them, but many of them have turned their backs on him, are no longer staying with him, or have willfully chosen to depart from him or DIVORCE HIM. 


Hosetta FILLED her journal with these truths: “…APART from Me you can do nothing…” (John 15:4-6 NASB). “…[YOU CHOOSE]...  this day whom ye will serve….” (Joshua 24:15 KJV). “…abide (STAY) in me, and I in you…” (John 15:4 KJV). “…If a man abide NOT in me (DIVORCES HIM), ‘he is cast forth as a branch, and is withered; and men gather them, and cast them into the fire, and they are burned…” (John 15:6 KJV).
“...HE (SHE) THAT “SHALL” (WILL, BY CHOICE) ENDURE UNTO THE END SHALL BE SAVED...” (Matthew 24:13 KJV).
“… it is impossible to bring back to repentance those who were ONCE enlightened—those who have experienced the good things of heaven and shared in the Holy Spirit,  who have tasted the goodness of the Word of God and the power of the age to come— and who then TURN AWAY (by choice) from God. It is impossible to bring such people back to repentance; …” (Hebrews 6:4-8 NLT).
“…Many will say to me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful works? And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity…” (Matthew 7:22-23 KJV). 
“…For thou art Not a God that hath pleasure in wickedness: neither shall evil dwell with thee. The foolish shall not stand in thy sight: thou hatest all workers of iniquity…” (Psalms 5:4-5 KJV).
“... it is this Good News that saves you “if” you continue to believe the message...” (1 Corinthians NLT). “…abide in me, and I in you…” (John 15:4 KJV). “... CONTINUE in the faith... grounded and settled...” (Colossians 1:22-23 KJV). “...be NOT moved away ...” (Colossians 1:22-23 KJV).“... “...HE (SHE) THAT “SHALL” (WILL) ENDURE UNTO THE END SHALL (WILL) BE SAVED...” (Matthew 24:13 KJV). 
 “...BE NOT moved away ...” (Colossians 1:22-23 KJV).
“…[Have]... you have been cut off from Christ! [IF SO] ...You have fallen away from God’s GRACE…” (Galatians 5:4 NLT). 
“…REPENT YE (Change your mind), AND BELIEVE the Gospel (depend upon the power of God’s Word AGAIN)…” (Mark 1:15 KJV). 
"… REPENT AND RETURN, “SO” that your sins may be wiped away…” (Acts 3:19 NASB). 

“…If you love me, you will (not might, maybe, sometimes, when I feel like it, or occasional, etc.) keep my commandments…” (John 14:15). However, “…My people would not listen to me. They kept doing whatever they wanted…” (Jeremiah 7:24 NLT). “… The people replied, “Don’t waste your breath. We will continue to live as we want to, stubbornly following our own evil desires…” (JEREMIAH 18:12 NLT). “…Thus saith the Lord; ‘CURSED BE the MAN (or woman) ... whose HEART departeth from the Lord…” (Jeremiah 17:5 KJV).

Thus, “…They (MY PEOPLE) broke [THEIR] ... covenant [WITH ME], (THROUGH WILLFUL DIVORCE), though I loved them as a...[RIGHTEOUS]... husband loves his wife,” says the Lord…” (Jeremiah 31:32 NASB).

“... Everyone who practices sin also practices lawlessness; and sin is lawlessness ...  the one who practices sin is of the devil ...  No one who is born of God practices sin, because His seed abides in him (UNLESS THEY HAVE DIVORCED FROM GOD BY CHOICE) ... By this the children of God and the children of the devil ARE OBVIOUS: anyone who does not practice righteousness is not of GOD..” (1 John 3:7-10 NASB).

“... EVERYONE (NO EXCEPTIONS) who practices sin …[AND]….anyone who does not practice righteousness is not of GOD..” (1 John 3:7-10 NASB).

“... I forewarn you ... that those who practice  (ONGOING SINFUL LIFESTYLES) ,... will not inherit the kingdom of God...” (Galatians 5:19-21 NASB).

Hosetta dated her entry, July 2019, and closed her journal for the day.

HOSETTA THOUGHT:  NOT MY WILL, BUT GOD'S  WILL BE DONE. NOT MY MESSAGE, BUT GOD'S MESSAGE BE PROCLAIMED AMONG HIS PEOPLE!  “...HE (SHE) THAT “SHALL” (NO EXCEPTIONS) ENDURE UNTO THE END SHALL BE SAVED...” (Matthew 24:13 KJV).

GOD WILL "NEVER" CHOOSE TO DIVORCE HIS PEOPLE, BUT THEY ARE "FREE" TO CHOOSE TO DIVORCE HIM. IT IS WHAT IT IS! 
“... I forewarn you ... that those who practice  (DEPARTING FROM GOD, NOT ABIDING, NOT ENDURING, ETC;) ,... will not inherit the kingdom of God...” (Galatians 5:19-21 NASB).

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