HOSETTA: THE UNRAVELING; CHAPTER 8

CHAPTER 8

          HOSETTA: THE UNRAVELING

“…Does a young woman forget her jewelry, or a bride her wedding dress? Yet for years on end my people have FORGOTten ME…” (Jeremiah 2:32 NLT).

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The unraveling of their marriage, for Hosetta, started with George’s sexual addiction.

His sexual addiction was the seed, planted in the soil of their marriage and produced a crop of issues that caused a chasm between them that separated them even to this very day.

When you have weeds in your garden, if you don’t pull them up by the roots they will take over, take control, and destroy the nutritional and medicinal purposes of the good crops.

Hosetta wanted to marry George and live a life of love, faith, and adventure with him. George presented himself, to her, as the right person to spend her life with.

However, what was supposed to last a lifetime, ended up in divorce. Once the seed of sexual addiction was sown into their marriage, it grew a crop of issues that destroyed and damaged their sacred, covenant relationship.

Hosetta thought, yes, George was married to her, but, he was also married to his addiction.

George DID all his misbehaving outside of their marriage, but he bought it home  to her through his character and conduct.

He became like the company he kept. His company defiled him. It made him defile the marriage and the UNRAVELING began.

The marriage was defiled and began to unravel through the LOSS of TRUST. Hosetta no longer felt safe or secure with George. The more he promised, the more he broke those promises, and the more the trust drifted further and further away.

The major factors for her LOSS of TRUST came from George’s ongoing sexual infidelity, his emotional ineptness, his lies, and his lack of reliable or dependable character.

Hosetta and George also stopped sharing mutual goals in regard to  how they would keep their SACRED covenant vows viable.

Hosetta wanted to trust George, but there was a pattern of evidence that demonstrated why her mistrust, of him, was justifiable.

Hosetta and George were nice looking people and they once had a physical attraction for one another. Hosetta’s strongest draw to George, however, was his faith, their common interests, their personal innovative ideals, and their socio-economical aspirations.

What initially drew her to George was the central theme in their relationship, in the beginning, but as time wore on other realities (such as his addiction) and its demands (the effects upon his character) overtook them.

The marriage was defiled and began to unravel when their EXPECTATIONS went in different directions. Hosetta wanted the marriage and George wanted the marriage and his addiction too.

Thus what they EXPECTED from each other, as spouses, became polarized, which showed or revealed itself in ALL their interactions with one another.

The marriage was defiled and began to unravel when their PRIORITIES clashed. For Hosetta, her husband and family was her central focus and other facets were secondary. For George, his addiction, dictated that he make "it"  his highest priority and central focus while his wife and family, slowly, became secondary facets of his life.

The marriage was defiled and began to unravel when their COMPATIBILITY was seriously jeopardized. They were  no longer compatible spiritually, intimately, personality-wise, or emotionally, especially emotionally.

The marriage was defiled and began to unravel when the lack of constructive COMMUNICATION destroyed the relationship’s health and well-being. Hosetta and George were once very communicative together, but now practically everything they said, on a personal level, was laced with disrespect, negative judgements, endless strife, criticisms, and poisonous sarcasms.

The marriage was defiled and began to unravel when NARCISSIM reared its ugly head. George exhibited, in her opinion, a grandiose attitude about his ethical self-image, and he often thought he was innocent and blameless from most wrong-doing.

George was charming, in the things, he DID for her, but she learned it was a false charm. George came across, to her, as if he was entitled and she often experienced him as conceited, manipulative, prideful, extremely selfish, rebellious,  prideful, and negative. If George DID right, he thought he didn't have to BE right.

The marriage was defiled and began to unravel when her interactions with George became obviously ABUSIVE. George wasn’t physically and sexually abusive, but he was emotionally and verbally abusive.

Whether he did it on purpose or inadvertently, George repeatedly mistreated her through his words, his adulterous actions, and his emotional ineptness. It was subtle, but George had a passive-aggressive need to control and dominant most things.

The marriage was defiled and began to unravel through George’s ongoing, destructive HABITS. She wasn’t a sexual addict, and she wasn’t directly involved in George’s activities outside the marriage, but she was, nonetheless,  affected, by his habits.

The marriage was defiled and began to unravel through LIMITATION, which made them grow apart. George often accused her of holding him back and said she had gotten into a rut, or grown stale, or complacent, and didn't want more. She, of course, was the blame, again, for their limitation.

But, in her opinion, it was George who was holding her and "them" back.  His addiction had him stuck in “that” place, which made him grow stale, put  him into a rut, made him complacent, and caused "him" not to want more.

It was George’s limitation that was the “real” catalyst for the chasm between them and it made them grow apart.

George was stuck and he, willingly, choose NOT to grow beyond his sexual addiction and its effects on his character. They had grown intellectually and materially together, but NOT emotionally, which was seriously dwarfed.

While George claimed FREEDOM by faith, he lived ENSLAVED and as his wife, she was affected and limited by it his lifestyle as it related to her.

Thus, during their covenant relationship, trust was limited, communication was limited, compatibility was limited, emotional growth was definitely limited, and adventure became limited.

While George CLAIMED to want more, he was ENSLAVED to LESS! George was under the impression that external growth held some kind of precedence over internal or personal growth, but not as far as she was concerned.

George went from being a GIANT man of FAITH, in her perspective, to a SMALL man who lacked faith. He had become the very LIMITATION he accused her of becoming.

 George’s addiction and the effects it had on his character, got in the way, added to the chasm, and caused them to ultimately grow apart.

They lost their precious connectedness and were no longer mutually involved like a “one flesh” couple should be. It was what it was and George was George.

The marriage was defiled and it began to unravel because of MONEY too. George constantly said they were financially incompatible. He accused Hosetta of being with him because of his potential to make money. It was ALL about him and her contributions were negated yet again.

Yes, they had money challenges like other couple, but together they worked on them and enjoyed many accomplishments. As was his custom, George was never satisfied. And of course Hosetta was the reason and blame for ALL their financial problems.

Their money disputes came from George. At the end of their marriage, all their assets and liabilities, according to Virginia law, were to be split between  them. They, however, had NONE of the normal DEBTS together (credit cards, car payments, loans, etc.), that most people have, to divide or split. Hhmm.

The marriage was defiled and it had unraveled. It was what it was. George was George. They came to the place they had been headed toward for a long time: DIVORCE.

The MARRIAGE between George and Hosetta "was
 a sacred,  covenant relationship, because they married “in” Christ and it WASN’T meant to be broken UNLESS one or both parties DIE.

In a way, the George Jarrett, she once knew, HAD DIED!

There is physical death and there is spiritual death. Hosetta was “IN” a loving, sacred, covenant relationship with George, but he TURNED  away from that relationship.  He was NOT in a loving, sacred, covenant relationship with her. He became a chronic ADULTERER. The covenant relationship DIED, for her, physically and spiritually and she conceded to its demise.

God’s people turned away from him in the book of Hosea and it killed the covenant relationship with him spiritually. Hosetta had often read how God's people abandoned him too. She wrote the following scriptures in her journal: “….They ABANDONED the Lord, the God of their ancestors, who had brought them out of Egypt. They went after other gods …” (Judges 2:12 NLT). “…Your INIQUITIES (sin) have separated between you and your God…” (Isaiah 59:2 KJV).

The chasm separated Hosetta and George. He ASKED her for a divorce. She didn’t want it and she didn’t agree with it, but she conceded to his HUMAN WILL. Leah used to tell her ALL the time that people had a human will. She was learning what she meant and KNEW now nobody and nothing could compete with the HUMAN WILL. When the human will CHOOSES it will SET SAIL in the direction of its CHOICE and you need ONLY to move out of the way!

George had a right to CHOSE the life he wanted, even if he didn’t chose her. That part hurt. However, the redeeming and healing part, was that, even though he didn’t choose her, she was still Hosetta!!

When God’s people DON’T choose him, it doesn’t change WHO God, the Holy Spirit is! According to scripture, he remains an AWESOME God. Hosetta wrote in her journal about WHO, the bible says, God is: “… “I AM WHO I AM …” (Exodus 3:14-15 NASB).  “...[I AM]... GOOD…there is none good but one, that is, God[, THE HOLY SPIRIT]...” (Nahum 1:7 & Mark 10:18 KJV).

“…God is love…” (1 John 4:4-8 KJV). “...[GOD, THE HOLY SPIRIT]...careth for you...” (1 Peter 5:7 KJV). “...God is faithful...” (1 Corinthians 1:9 KJV). “… he remains faithful, for he cannot deny who he is…” (2 Timothy 2:13 NLT).

 “…  I ...am your healer…” (Exodus 15:26). “…He helps me …” (Psalms 28:7 NLT). “…they shall be comforted. ….” (Matthew 5:3-11 KJV).

“… I AM HOLY…” (1 Peter 1:14-16 KJV).  “...There is none holy as the Lord…” (1 Samuel 2:2 KJV). “…God is the one who provides …” (2 Corinthians 9:10-13 KJV). “… God will supply all [the needs of his people]…” (Philippians 4:19 NASB).

“… [God] … will keep in perfect peace all (his people) who trust in … [him] … all (his people) whose thoughts are fixed on … [him!]...” (Isaiah 26:3 NLT). “…The Lord is “my” shepherd...” (PSALM 23:1-3 NLT). “… “Never will I leave you (the redeemed, his bride); never will I forsake you…” (Hebrews 13:5 NIV). “… I the LORD am ...[the]...Saviour ...[of the REDEEMED]…” (Isaiah 60:16 KJV). “…there is none like unto thee…” (Jeremiah 10:6 KJV).

“… “I AM WHO I AM …” (Exodus 3:14-15 NASB).  “…I am the Lord, I change NOT…” (Malachi 3:6 KJV).  ^“Jesus Christ (god’s word) is the same yesterday and today and forever” (Hebrews 13:8 NIV). 

She dated her entry and closed her journal for the day.

She pondered over the scriptures. In this world, we are to be LIKE God. Thus, Hosetta was still Hosetta. She was AWESOMELY Hosetta. God was restoring her soul. She was finding her joy again and rediscovering her love of laughter. She was finding the FREEDOM to be herself again and reconnecting, through love, to “true” friends and family again.

Hosetta begain writing books and books. She was spending more time with people she loved. She was starting to dream again and make new goals for herself. Her health was improving and she looked better than she had in years. She was STILL Hosetta!! AWESOMELY Hosetta.

Hosetta’s MARRIAGE to George became a symbolic MESSAGE and example of God’s love for his UNFAITHFUL people. Hosea 1:2 said: “... the Lord said to Hosea, Go, take unto thee a wife of whoredoms and children of whoredoms: for the land hath committed great whoredom, departing from the Lord...” (KJV).

She experienced God’s kind of love, during her relationship with George. She learned God’s LOVE is and remains RELENTLESS toward his people. Hosetta KNEW Romans 8:31-39 was absolutely true, so she journaled it.“…Who will separate [the redeemed]... from the love of Christ? … [Nothing]…will be able to separate [them]... from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord…”(NASB).

Truly there is no GREATER LOVE than God’s love and yet HIS PEOPLE STILL chose to be unfaithful to HIM. Hosetta wrote her discoveries faithfully in her journal. “…[God, the Holy Spirit] ...loved [HIS PEOPLE] ...with an everlasting love ...” (Jeremiah 31:3 KJV).  “…God is...[their covenant]... LOVE…” (1 John 4:4-8 KJV). “… [Nothing]…will be able to separate ...[the REDEEMED]... from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord…” (Romans 8:31-39 NASB).

Nonetheless,….They ABANDONED the Lord, the God of their ancestors, who had brought them out of Egypt. They went after other gods …” (Judges 2:12 NLT). 

September 2014.

Hosetta, SAW, through scripture that it really didn’t matter, to some, of HIS PEOPLE, how AWESOME God, the Holy Spirit, was, to them, they STILL choose to be UNFAITHFUL.

It didn't matter how AWESOME God was and it still DIDN'T stop "his" people from being unfaithful to him. It shouldn't be surprising that it didn’t matter WHO Hosetta was either. It didn't matter how “fearfully and wonderfully” God had made her, or  how she had genuinely LOVED George; he STILL choose to be UNFAITHFUL to her.

George was given a HUMAN WILL to choose. It is what it is.

Not only does UNFAITHFULNESS NOT change who God is, but he has a totally different perspective on it. He is not ANGRY, UPSET, or offended simply because they committed apostasy or spiritual adultery, because his love is unconditionally and unselfish.

Even his concern in "his" people's apostasy or spiritual adultery is NOT about him, but about his love for THEM. He doesn't WANT them to perish.

 He loves his people. Thus he is lovingly CONCERNED about how the act of apostasy will DEFILE them. DEFILED people will be punished and will NOT inherit the Kingdom of God as his WORD says. His Word will DO what it says it will do.  

Hosetta got her journal out and began to write: “….from WITHIN, out of a person’s heart, come evil thoughts ...sexual immorality ... adultery ...DESIRES (lustful choices, passions, appetites)... All these vile things come from WITHIN; they are what defile you…” (Mark 7:20-23 NLT). “... I forewarn you ... those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God...” (Galatians 5:19-21 NASB).

 “... Stand fast (keep enduring) therefore in the liberty (freedom from sin and freedom to OBEY) wherewith Christ hath made us free, and be not entangled again with the yoke of bondage...” (Galatians 5:1 KJV).

“...For if, after they (THOSE FREED FROM SIN) have escaped ... they (THOSE FREED FROM SIN) are AGAIN entangled in them (their former sinful lifestyles practices) ... it would be better for them (THOSE FREED FROM SIN) not to have known the way of righteousness, than having known it, to turn away from the holy commandment ... It has happened to them (THOSE FREED FROM SIN) according to the true proverb, “A DOG RETURNS TO ITS OWN VOMIT,” and, “A sow, after washing, returns to wallowing in the mire...” (2 Peter 2:20-23 NASB).

 “... EVERYONE (NO EXCEPTIONS) who practices sin also practices lawlessness; and sin is lawlessness ... the one who practices sin is of the devil ...By this the children of God and the children of the devil are obvious: anyone who does not practice righteousness is not of GOD...” (1 John 3:7-10 NASB).

“… [His word] shall not return unto [him]… void, but it shall accomplish that which [God, the Holy Spirit]… please[s], and it shall prosper in the thing whereto [God, the Holy Spirit]… sent it…” (Isaiah 55:11 KJV).

“... you have been unfaithful to your God ... The time of Israel’s punishment has come; the day of payment is here. Soon Israel will know this all too well. Because of your great sin and hostility, you say, “The prophets are crazy and the inspired men are fools!” The prophet is a watchman over Israel for my God, yet traps are laid for him wherever he goes. He faces hostility even in the house of God. The things my people do are as depraved as what they did in Gibeah long ago. God will not forget. He will surely punish them for their sins...” (Hosea 9:1, 7-9 NLT). “…They ABANDONED the Lord… they turned their backs on him….” (2 Chronicles 29:6 NLT).

“...And now, O our God, what can we say after all of this? For ONCE AGAIN we have...[willfully chosen to]... ABANDONED your commands!” (Ezra 9:10 NLT).

After, a beautiful, uniquely intimate, covenant relationship, with God, the Holy Spirit; a man or woman, who claimed to belong to him, can decide to return to a life without the HIM. “...the land hath committed great whoredom, departing from the Lord...” (Hosea 1:2 KJV “...Take heed, BRETHREN (God’s people (male & female), lest there be in any of you an evil heart of unbelief, in departing from the living God...” (Hebrews 3:12 KJV).  

“…If someone claims, “I know God,” but doesn’t obey God’s commandments, that person IS A LIAR and is not living in the truth…” (1 John 2:4 NLT).  “…If we “SAY” that we have fellowship with him, and WALK IN DARKNESS (apostasy), WE LIE, and DO NOT THE TRUTH…” (1 John 1:6 KJV).  “ … the deeds of the flesh are evident…” (Galatians 5:20-22  NASB).

When a man or woman of God chooses to turn their backs on God and chase after other gods, it is a choice that can and will prevent them from inheriting the Kingdom of God.

“...And now, O our God, what can we say after all of this? For ONCE AGAIN we have...[willfully chosen to]... ABANDONED your commands!” (Ezra 9:10 NLT). “... I forewarn you ... those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God...” (Galatians 5:19-21 NASB).

“... You have been unfaithful to your God ... The time of Israel’s punishment has come; the day of payment is here....” (Hosea 9:1, 7-9 NLT).

In the book of Hosea, God’s PEOPLE, chose NOT to keep the covenant with HIM. “... they turned their backs on him….” (2 Chronicles 29:6 NLT).

They CHOSE to CONTINUALLY dishonor him, to be unfaithful to him, to treat the holy covenant with contempt, to disrespect him, to forsake him, to abandoned his instructions, and  to go after other gods. “... You have been unfaithful to your God ...” (Hosea 9:1, 7-9 NLT).

“….They ABANDONED the Lord, the God of their ancestors, who had brought them out of Egypt. They went after other gods …” (Judges 2:12 NLT). “… [THEY]… FORGOT all about ME,” says the Lord…” (Hosea 2:13 NLT). “…For years on end my people have FORGOTten ME…” (Jeremiah 2:32 NLT).

God is always GOOD to his people. God BLESSES them abundantly. God endows them with the beauty of his holiness. God makes them successful and prosperous spiritually, but they STILL willfully choose to commit apostasy! “…My people would not listen to me. They kept (CHOOSING TO DO) ...whatever they wanted…” (Jeremiah 7:24 NLT). “… The people replied, “Don’t waste your breath. We will continue to (CHOOSE TO) live as we want to, stubbornly following our own evil desires…” (JEREMIAH 18:12 NLT). “…Thus saith the Lord; ‘Cursed be the MAN (or woman) ... whose HEART (WILLFULLY) departeth from the Lord…” (Jeremiah 17:5 KJV).

In addition, “…[MY PEOPLE]... broke [THEIR] ... covenant [WITH ME, BY CHOICE,], though I loved them as a...[righteous]... husband loves his wife,” says the Lord…” (Jeremiah 31:32 NASB).

“...And now, O our God, what can we say after all of this? For ONCE AGAIN we have...[willfully chosen to]... ABANDONED your commands!” (Ezra 9:10 NLT). 


Hosetta dated her entry and closed her journal for the day.

HOSETTA’S  PONDERED OVER HER ENTRY. HER MARRIAGE ENDED IN DIVORCE AND GOD’S PEOPLE, WHO ARE  IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM, BUT ARE BEING UNFAITHFUL, CAN ALSO, END UP IN DIVORCE TOO! “… to ... those who were once enlightened— AND THEN TURN AWAY…” (Hebrews 6:4-8 NLT). “... I forewarn you ... those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God...” (Galatians 5:19-21 NASB).

“…EXCEPT YE REPENT, ye (his people)...[ALSO]... shall all likewise PERISH…” (Luke 13:3 KJV).

During the course of their marriage, George turned away from Hosetta and HE CHOSE NOT TO CHANGE HIS WAYS. By his "own" decision their sacred, covenant relationship ended in divorce and perished into history. 


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