Thursday, September 26, 2019

CAN REJECTION HAVE A PURPOSE?


                            
  DOES YOUR “REJECTION” HAVE A PURPOSE!

Rejection is an ACTION directed toward you, from another person, who purposely shuts you out.

Rejection is an ACTION directed toward you, from another person, who refuses to treat you in acceptable or honorable ways.

Rejection is an ACTION directed toward you, from another person, who declines to recognize, respect, or value your usefulness or existence in their life in anyway.

Rejection is an ACTION directed toward you, from another person, who refuses to give you the love, attention, or affirmation you may desire and deserve.

Rejection is an ACTION that is experienced and comes from another person in your family, through a trusted friend, from a romantic partner or one’s spouse, or as a result of a situation or circumstance,

Rejection is an ACTION directed toward you that CAUSES emotional pain. The emotional pain from rejection is equal to the emotional pain from a physical injury and will affect the same area of the brain.

Thus, Rejection HURTS, literally!

Rejection HURTS, especially when it is directed toward you by someone you love, someone you want a lasting relationship with, someone who is supposed to love you too, and it is unwarranted. You are trying to bring the person close to your heart and they are trying to BREAK-UP with you by going in the opposite direction for NO apparent reason.

Rejection is unwarranted, especially when it is undeserved, unnecessary, unjustifiable, uncalled for, unprovoked, needless, for NO reason, or extra.

FOR EXAMPLE: Rejection is an ACTION directed toward you, from another person, when you are trying to give them a GIFT of love, in one expression or another, and they CHOOSE to refuse it,  criticize it, negate it, push it away, turn their backs on it, devalue it, treat it unworthily, or walk away from it altogether.

When rejection, an ACTION, is directed toward you, from another person, in the above mentioned ways, it can often make your feel SHAMED, SAD, HURT, GRIEF STRICKEN, BAD, UNWORTHY, DEVALUED, AND DISRESPECTED, especially when it is UNWARRANTED.

Even when rejected is UNWARRANTED, but it is DIRECTED toward you, it will IMPACT your emotions. The MAIN reason rejection IMPACTS your emotion, so powerfully, is because you MAY desire to be CLOSE to the person rejecting you or simply want their acceptance.

MOST people have a “FEAR” of rejection. The FEAR comes from NOT wanting to experience the EMOTIONAL PAIN of rejection, which comes along with loneliness, depression, abandonment, feeling forsaken or forgotten, or  self-criticism of one’s OWN unworthiness.

Rejection is an ACTION directed toward you, from another PERSON, and it is USED to kill, steal, and destroy YOUR value and YOUR worth, especially “IF” you internalize it and begin to DEFINE yourself by HOW you are being REJECTED by “this” person, persons, situation, circumstance, or experience.

When you BEGIN to DEFINE yourself by HOW you are being REJECTED by another person, persons, situation, circumstance, or experience USUALLY it becomes an internal conversation, with yourself, that involves self-criticism and AGREES with your REJECTORS actions toward you. YOU are DEFINING yourself by HOW your REJECTORS have treated you. Your IDENTITY comes from human REJECTORS or from OUTSIDE of yourself or God. “THEY” said, by their rejective ACTIONS toward you, “...you are not worthy...” and you have agreed by saying to yourself “...I am not worthy...”

From that POINT on you WILL AGREE with your human REJECTORS and LIFE will continually place you in situations, with REJECTORS, that  will repeatedly AFFIRM you are NOT valuable or worthy of love or acceptance.

This REPEATED criticism of your personhood that devalues you and treats you unworthily BECOMES a PAINFUL existence, especially every time you come in contact with a human REJECTOR either directly or inadvertently.

Rejection is an ACTION directed toward you, from another person, and everyone experiences it in their lifetime sooner or later. However, rejection was meant to be a temporary experience and NOT a lifetime experience. Rejection HURTS, but it can HEAL with time. However, if rejection begins to DEFINE you, it becomes emotionally and mentally long-lasting and CRIPPLES you.

Rejection is an ACTION directed toward you, from another person, but if it DEFINES you; it most likely, has CRIPPLED you too. Being CRIPPLED by rejection shows up in one or more ways: it will impede your ability to succeed in many parts of your life; you will experience depression often, emotional pain will be constant in one way or another, anxiety and stress will eventually contribute or activate health issues, you may allow yourself to be taken for granted because you devalue yourself, you may allow yourself to be treated like a doormat because you “think” you are unworthy of love and respect, or you may be more accepting and tolerant of emotional abuse in intimate relationships (includes children siblings, close family & friends).

Rejection HURTS on many, many levels and has a powerful IMPACT on your life and overall well-being.

Rejection is an ACTION directed toward you, from another person, and it is NOT healthy when it is INTERNALIZED and allowed to DEFINE who you are!

YOU ARE “NOT” defined by “HOW” a person TREATS you or RESPONDS to you! REJECTION “IS” painful, especially when it comes from someone YOU love, or a TRUSTED friend or family member.

REJECTION can be ONE MAJOR experience or a daily experience, but it STILL does NOT “DEFINE” you!

Humans are humans and they CHANGE all the time. They have been given a human will in order to MAKE CHOICES and sometimes their CHOICES don’t include YOU. “THAT” is PAINFUL, but that is ALL it is; a PAINFUL reality and experience.

You are ALLOWED to “FEEL” the experience, but that’s as far as that rejection goes. FEELINGS are just FEELINGS; they are NOT truth!

Rejection is AN ACTION directed toward you, from another person, and it HURTS, but you CHOOSE “NOT” to internalize it by allowing it to DEFINE YOU!

Rejection HURTS, but it has NO POWER to change WHO you are!

Rejection has NO POWER to change WHO you are. Thus, it is the PLACE of TRUTH where HEALING and REDEMPTION can begin.

Let’s look at this through a SPIRITUAL TRUTH.  God NEVER lets ANYTHING change WHO HE IS!! “…God is love…” (1 John 4:4-8 KJV). “… “I AM WHO I AM …” (Exodus 3:14-15 NASB).  “…I am the Lord, I change NOT…” (Malachi 3:6 KJV). For instance, God, the Holy Spirit, remains a FAITHFUL being, because that’s “WHO” he is whether he is REJECTED or not. “… he remains faithful, for he cannot deny who he is(2 Timothy 2:13 NLT).

NOTHING, outside of himself, CHANGES or DEFINES “WHO” God is and his people are to be LIKE him. “…In this world we are like Jesus…” (1 John 4:17 NIV). “...be… imitators of [Jesus]…” (Hebrews 12:14; Ephesians 5:1 ASV)....[Jesus]...is the same yesterday and today and forever” (Hebrews 13:8 NIV).

This is a POWERFUL truth.

When you are a NEW CREATION in Christ Jesus, NO REJECTION can DEFINE or CHANGE “who” YOU ARE. “Therefore if any man (woman) be in Christ, he (she) is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new...” (2 Corinthians 5:17 KJV).

God helps his people to WITHSTAND the ACTIONS of rejection experienced through their interactions with others. .“…He helps me…” (Psalms 28:7 NLT). “God … worketh in [his people], both to will and to do of His good pleasure” (Philippians 2:13 KJV). “…the Father that dwelleth in… [them], he doeth the works…” (John 14:10 KJV). …God ...does the work IN AND THROUGH all of us who are his (people)… (1 Corinthians 12:4-11 NLT).

Rejection is AN ACTION directed toward you, from another person, but God can turn it around FOR GOOD!“...ALL THINGS work (PROCESS) together for good to them (his people) that love God, to them who are the called ACCORDING TO HIS PURPOSE…” (ROMANS 8:28 KJV).

Rejection is AN ACTION directed toward you, from another person, and it may not FEEL good, but it is “...working together for good...” by teaching YOU to “...LET GO...” of people who are NOT GOOD for you!

That PERSON who is REJECTING you is inadvertently “...working together for YOUR GOOD...” along with God, who is in control of the whole situation, to redirect your steps toward something else HE has for you. “...The steps of a good man(woman) are ordered by the Lord...” (Psalms 37:23 KJV). “…I will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shalt go: I will guide thee with mine eye…” (Psalms 32:8 KJV). ...“Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man the things which God hath prepared for those who love Him…” (1 Corinthians 2:9 KJV). “...ALL THINGS (even rejection) work together for good to them (his people) that love God…” (ROMANS 8:28 KJV).

Rejection is AN ACTION, directed toward you, from another person, and in the midst of it, while you still “feeling” the pain from yesterday, or still experiencing it on a daily basis, it DOESN’T “feel” good and you can’t IMAGINE good coming from it!

 God KNOWS and he CARES. He is WORKING on it and TAKING CARE of “all” that CONCERNS you in regard to that situation! “...Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.” (1 Peter 5:7 KJV).   “….all things [will] work together for good to them that love God…” (Romans 8:28 KJV). “…Behold, I am with … [you] and will keep … [you] …I will not leave [you] ..." (Genesis 28:15 ASV). “...He careth for you.” (1 Peter 5:7 KJV). “…God is LOVE…” (1 John 4:4-8 KJV). “… I AM WHO I AM” (Exodus 3:14-15 NASB).  “…I change NOT” (Malachi 3:6 KJV). “…The LORD “WILL” accomplish (take care of)…that which concerns [you]…” (John 14:31 NASB). “…God is the one who provides ....”(2 Corinthians 9:10-13 KJV).  “…God will generously PROVIDE all you need…” (2 Corinthians 9:8 NLT).

“...Be still, and know that I am God ... The Lord of Heaven’s Armies is here among us; the God of Israel is our fortress...” (Psalms 46 NLT). “…He helps me…” (Psalms 28:7 NLT). . “…If God is for us, who is against us? ...” (Romans 8:31-39 NASB). “...No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper...” (Isaiah 54:17 KJV). “…The LORD will accomplish (take care of)…that which concerns [you]…” (John 14:31 NASB). “… THE LORD … is Your rock and Your fortress, your deliverer…” (Psalms 18:3 NASB).

Rejection is AN ACTION, directed toward you, from another person, and whether it is something that HAS ALREADY happened to you or is currently HAPPENING to you;  GOD SAW IT or SEES IT!

This is what his WORD says: “….Verily I say unto you, inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these, my brethren, YE HAVE DONE IT TO ME.” (Matthew 25:40 KJV).

“...Avenge not yourselves, beloved, but give place unto the wrath of God, for it is written: "Vengeance (making things JUST) belongeth unto to me; I will recompense (repay)," saith the Lord” (Romans 12:19 ASV).

God miraculously protects ALL of his children, even you, letting no one “…do them wrong...” and says “….touch not mine anointed (his righteous children who are set apart for his service) and do…[them] no harm.” (Psalm 105:14-15 KJV).

Here is an example of God taking your hurtful experiences and absorbing them for you: Paul was killing and persecuting God’s disciples and Jesus took it personally, as if Paul was actually doing it to him. “And Saul, yet breathing out threatenings and slaughter against the disciples of the Lord, went unto the high priest, And desired of him letters to Damascus to the synagogues, that if he found any of this way, whether they were men or women, he might bring them bound unto Jerusalem. And as he journeyed, he came near Damascus: and suddenly there shined round about him a light from heaven: And he fell to the earth, and heard a voice saying unto him, Saul, Saul, why persecutest thou ME? And he said, Who art thou, Lord? And the Lord said, I am Jesus whom thou persecutest: it is hard for thee to kick against the pricks. And he trembling and astonished said, Lord, what wilt thou have me to do? And the Lord said unto him, Arise, and go into the city, and it shall be told thee what thou must do. And the men which journeyed with him stood speechless, hearing a voice, but seeing no man...” (Acts 9:1-7 KJV).

“…. inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these, my brethren, YE HAVE DONE IT TO ME.” (Matthew 25:40 KJV).

“…If God is for us, who is against us? ...” (Romans 8:31-39 NASB). “...No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper...” (Isaiah 54:17 KJV). “…He helps me…” (Psalms 28:7 NLT).   “…The LORD will accomplish (take care of)…that which concerns [you]…” (John 14:31 NASB). “… THE LORD … is Your rock and Your fortress, your deliverer…” (Psalms 18:3 NASB).

Rejection is AN ACTION, directed toward you, from another person - who could be a husband, daughter, son, mother, father, sibling, cousin, another family member, or friend - and they are devaluing you, disrespecting you, dishonoring you, pushing you away, mistreating you, criticizing you, or speaking harshly to you for NO REASON.

REMEMBER, in God’s eyes, they are NOT only rejecting you, but they are rejecting him too, because his INDWELLING Holy Spirit, is within you! “….Verily I say unto you, inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these, my brethren, YE HAVE DONE IT TO ME.” (Matthew 25:40 KJV). “...Vengeance (making things JUST) belongeth unto to me; I will recompense (repay)," saith the Lord” (Romans 12:19 ASV).

“…No weapon that is formed against [YOU]… shall prosper…” (Isaiah 54:17 KJV). “…WHOEVER BELIEVES IN HIM WILL NOT BE DISAPPOINTED…" (ROMANS 10:11 NASB). …TRUST in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths” (Proverbs 3:5-6 KJV). “…The LORD will accomplish (take care of)…that which concerns [you]…” (John 14:31 NASB).

Rejection is AN ACTION, directed toward you, from another person, but you have a SECRET just like Apostle Paul. Apostle Paul said: “…I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want (of the love and acceptance of MY REJECTOR)” Philippians 4:11-12 NIV).

Rejection is AN ACTION directed toward you, from another person, but it is “...working together for good...” by teaching YOU to “...LET GO...” of people who are NOT GOOD for you!

The HARDEST part of “...LETTING GO...” of your REJECTORS is your personally love and concern for them. You “think” they won’t MAKE it without you so you TAKE the abuse, but, ask yourself, can you take care of them BETTER than God can? He promises he will take care of WHAT and WHO concerns you. “…The LORD “WILL” accomplish (take care of)…that which concerns [you]…” (John 14:31 NASB). “…God is the one who provides ....”(2 Corinthians 9:10-13 KJV).  “…God will generously PROVIDE all you need…” (2 Corinthians 9:8 NLT).

“...LETTING GO...” of your REJECTORS may be the ONLY way to RECEIVE them back whole and healthy. Rejection is AN ACTION directed toward you, from another person, and if God has allowed it and the relationship is NOT WORKING why NOT give it to God?

This toxic relationship is or was HARD for you and it proved to be IMPOSSIBLE for you bring together, but nothing is IMPOSSIBLE for him to FIX and nothing is TOO HARD. “…the things which are impossible with men are possible with God…” (Luke 18:27 KJV). “….I am the Lord, the God of all flesh: IS THERE ANY THING TOO HARD FOR ME?” (Jeremiah 32:27 KJV). “…NOW UNTO HIM THAT IS ABLE to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or THINK, according to the power that worketh in us…” (Ephesians 3:20 KJV).

Rejection is AN ACTION directed toward you, from another person, and it is NOT a reflection upon “YOUR” worth or value, but it means the REJECTOR has FAILED to SEE the LOVE and CARE you are OFFERING.  God gives you an opportunity to CHOOSE to let them go, on your own and trust him with the results.

Their rejection of you is just as personal for him as it is for you and HE has the GREATER POWER to do something about it! “….Verily I say unto you, inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these, my brethren, YE HAVE DONE IT TO ME.” (Matthew 25:40 KJV). “... "Vengeance (making things JUST) belongeth unto to me; I will recompense (repay)," saith the Lord” (Romans 12:19 ASV). “…the things which are impossible with men are possible with God…” (Luke 18:27 KJV).

It HURTS to LET GO and LET GOD and you will FEEL HELPLESS, but you are limited to HUMAN efforts and you CAN’T compete with another person’s human will. God doesn’t even TRY to compete with the human will. He openly tells you his OWN people DO what they WANT TO DO and will NOT listen to him! “…my people would not listen to me. ...” (Jeremiah 7:24 NLT). “…They kept doing whatever they wanted...” (Jeremiah 7:24 NLT). “…They kept ...following the stubborn desires of their evil hearts...” (Jeremiah 7:24 NLT). “…They went backward instead of forward...” (Jeremiah 7:24 NLT). “... "Vengeance belongeth unto to me; I will recompense," saith the Lord” (Romans 12:19 ASV). “…whatsoever a man (woman) soweth, that shall he (she) also reap….” (Galatians 6:7 KJV). “….For he (she) that soweth to his (her) flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption…” (Galatians 6:8 KJV).  But the people replied, “Don’t waste your breath. We will continue to live as we want to, stubbornly following our own evil desires” (JEREMIAH 18:12 NLT).

Rejection is AN ACTION directed toward you, from another person, and it FORCES you to “...LET GO...” You don’t have to “...LET GO...” of your love and care for them, but you DO have to “...LET GO...” of your role as their SAVIOR!

God PUTS you and the REJECTOR into a BATTLE, that ONLY HE can WIN. The BATTLE may terrify you, but you MUST choose to do what King Jehoshaphat did.   “…After this, the armies of the Moabites, Ammonites, and some of the Meunites declared WAR on Jehoshaphat. Messengers came and told Jehoshaphat, “A vast army from Edom is marching against you from beyond the Dead Sea. They are already at Hazazon-tamar.” (This was another name for En-gedi.). Jehoshaphat was TERRIFIED by this news...” (2 Chronicles 20:1-30 NLT).  

King Jehoshaphat didn’t ACT upon his FEAR about this pending BATTLE, but he ACTED upon his faith. King Jehoshaphat trusted and depended upon God, “terrified.” Thus, in spite of his “feelings” he called upon God, the Holy Spirit, for advice and help. “... He prayed, “O Lord, God of our ancestors, you alone are the God who is in heaven. …We can cry out to you to save us, and you will hear us and rescue us.’ …O our God, won’t you stop them? We are powerless against this mighty army that is about to attack us. We do not know what to do, but we are looking to you for help.” …” (2 Chronicles 20: 1-30 NLT).

King Jehoshaphat went to God, INSIDE HIS BATTLE, “terrified.”  God didn’t condemn him, but God helped him. “…He helps me…” (Psalms 28:7 NLT).  “…As all the men of Judah stood before the Lord with their little ones, wives, and children, the Spirit of the Lord came upon one of the men standing there. His name was Jahaziel son of Zechariah, son of Benaiah, son of Jeiel, son of Mattaniah, a Levite who was a descendant of Asaph…” (2 Chronicles 20:1-30 NLT).

“… The Holy Spirit helps us in our weakness…” (Romans 8:26 NLT).

God responded to King Jehoshaphat, lovingly, by sending him a divine message through a man named Jahaziel.“…He said, “Listen, all you people of Judah and Jerusalem! Listen, King Jehoshaphat! This is what the Lord says: Do not be afraid! Don’t be discouraged by this mighty army, for the battle is not yours, but God’s. …you will not even need to fight. Take your positions; then stand still and watch the Lord’s victory. He is with you … Do not be afraid or discouraged. Go out against them tomorrow, for the Lord is with you!” (2 Chronicles 20:1-30 NLT).

Jahaziel’s inspired Word from God guided, strengthened, and empowered King Jehoshaphat to follow God’s instructions and it bought the King overwhelming victory in HIS BATTLE. “…Early the next morning the army of Judah went out into the wilderness of Tekoa. On the way Jehoshaphat stopped and said, “Listen to me, all you people of Judah and Jerusalem! Believe in (trust in, depend upon) the Lord your God, and you will be able to stand firm. Believe in his prophets, and you will succeed.” After consulting the people, the king appointed singers to walk ahead of the army, singing to the Lord and praising him for his holy splendor. This is what they sang: “Give thanks to the Lord; his faithful love endures forever!” (2 Chronicles 20:1-30 NLT).

Rejection is AN ACTION directed toward you, from another person, and sometimes the BATTLE between you and them can be TERRIFYING!  “…Jehoshaphat “was” TERRIFIED by this news...” (2 Chronicles 20:1-30 NLT).

However, King Jehoshaphat STILL turned to God. In spite of his feelings, the king trusted in God.  He did NOT trust in his “FEELINGS” of terror and he was able to hear God’s Word and go out to BATTLE, against his enemies, singing and praising GOD. “…At the very moment they began to sing and give praise, the Lord caused the armies of Ammon, Moab, and Mount Seir to start fighting among themselves. The armies of Moab and Ammon turned against their allies from Mount Seir and killed every one of them. After they had destroyed the army of Seir, they began attacking each other. So when the army of Judah arrived at the lookout point in the wilderness, all they saw were dead bodies lying on the ground as far as they could see. Not a single one of the enemy had escaped...On the fourth day they gathered in the Valley of Blessing which got its name that day because the people praised and thanked the Lord there. It is still called the Valley of Blessing today. the Lord had given them victory over their enemies...” (2 Chronicles 20:1-30 NLT).

God didn’t LEAVE King Jehoshaphat in the BATTLE alone. He doesn’t leave you alone with your REJECTORS either. He WANTS to HELP you!  “… The Holy Spirit helps us in our weakness…” (Romans 8:26 NLT).  Like  “…He said (to the king) … Do not be afraid or discouraged. Go out against them tomorrow, for the Lord is with you!” (2 Chronicles 20:1-30 NLT).

In addition, “…He said, “Listen, all you people of Judah and Jerusalem! Listen, King Jehoshaphat! This is what the Lord says: Do not be afraid! Don’t be discouraged by this mighty army, for the battle is not yours, but God’s. …you will not even need to fight. Take your positions; then stand still and watch the Lord’s victory...(2 Chronicles 20:1-30 NLT).

It is NOT a LACK of FAITH to FEEL your human experience of rejection in your private and personal BATTLES with people you love. God expects it, but he wants to be the one who SUPPLIES what you need INSIDE the BATTLE. “…God is the one who provides [for you]…” (2 Corinthians 9:10-13 KJV). “… God will supply all [your need]…” (Philippians 4:19 NASB). “… [God] … will keep in perfect peace all who trust in … [him and] … all whose thoughts are fixed on … [him!]” (Isaiah 26:3 NLT).….The Lord is [“your”] shepherd ….” (PSALM 23:1-3 NLT). “… THE LORD … is Your rock and Your fortress, your deliverer, Your GOD, Your rock, in whom [you] … take refuge; Your shield …" (Psalms 18:3 NASB). “…I the LORD am thy Saviour …[even in “your” storm]...” (Isaiah 60:16 KJV).

Remember through it all: “…there is none like unto thee (God, the Holy Spirit)” (Jeremiah 10:6 KJV). ...he (God, the Holy Spirit)...hath done marvellous things… ( Psalms 98:1 KJV). “… Many, O Lord my God, are thy wonderful works which thou hast done …” (Psalms 40:5 KJV).

The BATTLE between YOU and each and every REJECTOR is God’s BATTLE too and it is not IMPOSSIBLE, for him, to WIN those battles! “…the things which are impossible with men are possible with God…” (Luke 18:27 KJV).

Rejection is AN ACTION directed toward you, from another person, and sometimes it is TIME for YOU to REST. You’ve DONE what God ask you to DO. Let him DO the rest. In the MEANTIME, he wants to RESTORE YOUR SOUL. Part of RESTORING your SOUL is restoring your WORTH and VALUE!! Let his LOVE heal you!!  “…He restoreth my SOUL…” (Psalm 23 KJV). “…The law of the LORD (the WORD of God) is perfect, restoring the SOUL…” (Psalm 19 NASB).  

“….Jesus Christ (the WORD of GOD) maketh thee WHOLE (AGAIN)…” (Acts 9:34 KJV). “... and man (woman) became a living soul” (Genesis 2:7 KJV). ….He (the WORD OF GOD) restoreth my soul….” (PSALM 23:1-3 NLT).I (God, the holy spirit) will restore…” (Jeremiah 30:17 KJV). “…[The]...restorer of thy life…” (Ruth 4:15 KJV).

Rejection is AN ACTION directed toward you, from another person, but it can NEVER change WHO you are or your value and worth to God, the Holy Spirit!!

LET GO OF  YOUR REJECTORS, BE AT PEACE, TRUST GOD, AND LET THE HOLY SPIRIT DEAL WITH THEM!

WOOHOO!!

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